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Inspiration

Silent Storms: Recognizing Emotional Distance in Your Relationship

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2025 Rebecca Nietert

Have you ever felt alone while sitting right next to your partner? As a home watch professional, I’ve learned that maintaining anything valuable – whether it’s a home or a relationship – requires attention to subtle warning signs. Today, I want to share some insights about a hidden relationship challenge that many couples face: emotional neglect.

Understanding Emotional Distance

Emotional neglect isn’t about what’s happening in your relationship – it’s about what’s not happening. Like a slowly developing water leak behind a wall, it can cause damage long before you notice visible signs. Here are key indicators that emotional distance might be creeping into your relationship:

1. Communication Misalignment

When you frequently misinterpret each other’s feelings or intentions, it’s like speaking different emotional languages. This disconnect can create a growing gap between partners.

2. Walking on Eggshells

If you’re constantly avoiding difficult conversations to keep the peace, you’re building walls instead of bridges. Healthy relationships thrive on open communication, even when it’s challenging.

3. Surface-Level Connection

When conversations rarely dive deeper than daily schedules or household logistics, it’s a sign that emotional intimacy might be lacking. Meaningful relationships need both practical and emotional connections.

4. The Missing Partnership Feel

Remember how it felt to be truly excited to share news with your partner? If they’re no longer your go-to person for celebrating victories or seeking comfort, it’s worth examining why.

5. Emotional Awkwardness

When expressing love or sharing tender moments feels uncomfortable outside of physical intimacy, it might indicate an emotional disconnect that needs attention.

The Impact of Emotional Distance

Just as neglecting a home’s maintenance can lead to serious problems, emotional neglect in relationships can create invisible cracks in your foundation. Both partners often feel the effects, even if they can’t quite name what’s wrong.

Moving Forward

The good news? Recognizing these signs is the first step toward positive change. Like any valuable asset, relationships require regular maintenance and attention to thrive.

Consider this post a gentle reminder to check in on your relationship’s emotional “infrastructure.” After all, the strongest relationships, like the most well-maintained homes, are those that receive consistent care and attention.

What signs have you noticed in your own relationships? How do you maintain emotional connection with your partner? Share your thoughts in the comments below. ⬇️

Human Interest

The Landscape of Female Oppression: Unveiling Gender Inequities Over the Past 60 Years

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2024 Rebecca Nietert

Over the past six decades, significant strides have been made towards gender equality. However, female oppression has persisted as an insidious and multifaceted issue. This written hypothesis will delve into the restrictions women faced, the dependence on men, the perception of women leaders, and the contrasting criticisms they endure. By shedding light on these enduring challenges, we can contribute to the ongoing dialogue for achieving true gender parity.

Historical Restrictions on Women: Throughout history, women have faced numerous restrictions, limiting their opportunities and autonomy. Over the past 60 years, women were commonly denied access to higher education, employment opportunities, and positions of power. They were often expected to conform to traditional gender roles, prioritizing domestic responsibilities and childcare. The fight for women’s rights during this era encompassed fighting against discriminatory practices such as unequal pay, limited reproductive rights, and gender-based violence.

Throughout the formation of the United States, women experienced various forms of oppression, which eventually led to the creation of laws aimed at protecting their rights. These laws were necessary because women did not initially have the same rights as men. For instance, it wasn’t until the 1980s that women were legally allowed to purchase a home without the signature of a man.

As we delve into the list of oppressions faced by women, it becomes evident that our foremothers and ancestors played a significant role in shaping the contemporary woman we see today. Their efforts in challenging the existing norms have had a profound impact on gender equality, and their struggle should not be overlooked.

It is important to understand the historical context in which these laws were created. By acknowledging the magnitude of these injustices, we can gain a deeper appreciation for the progress made and the importance of continuing to strive for equal rights for all.

Detailed Timeline

Dependence on Men: Within patriarchal societies, women were often expected to rely on men for economic stability, legal protection, and social validation. In the not-too-distant past, women needed male consent or sponsorship to open a bank account, secure loans, or even participate in certain sports. Societal norms pressured women to prioritize marriage and motherhood, perpetuating their dependence on male counterparts for societal acceptance and support.

Perception of Women Leaders: The world’s view of women leaders has evolved slowly but perceptibly over the past 60 years. Historically, women in leadership positions faced undue scrutiny, skepticism, and resistance due to entrenched gender biases. However, today, women leaders are increasingly recognized as competent, capable, and influential. Nevertheless, gender biases still persist, and women in leadership roles continue to face double standards and biases that their male counterparts do not encounter.

Criticism of Female Leaders vs. Male Leaders: Criticism of female leaders often takes a gendered tone, focusing on appearance, emotions, and other attributes unrelated to their abilities or performance. Female leaders are frequently subjected to harsher scrutiny and more personal attacks compared to male leaders. This gender bias can undermine the reputation and effectiveness of women leaders, inhibiting their ability to enact meaningful change. Male leaders, on the other hand, tend to face criticism centered more on policy decisions or performance in their respective roles.

While progress has undeniably been made in the past 60 years, female oppression continues to persist in various forms. Women were historically denied access to education, employment, and positions of power. The reliance on men for validation and support further contributed to the gender inequalities women faced. Although perceptions of women leaders have evolved, prejudices and double standards persist, resulting in disproportionate criticism based on gender. To achieve gender equality, society must continue to challenge outdated norms, confront bias, and provide equal opportunities for women to participate and lead in various spheres. Only by dismantling the barriers of oppression can we create a more inclusive and equitable society for all.

NOTE: Of course this blog is about biological females, because any man, pretending to be one is slapping every woman in the face and her mother before her and her mothers before that signify that our fight means absolutely nothing.

https://theclassicjournal.uga.edu/index.php/2018/10/31/evolving-oppression-how-societies-keep-women-down/

amwriting, Inspiration

Over Worrying – A Faithless Journey

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2020 – Rebecca Nietert

In the midst of life’s chaotic whirlwind, it’s so easy to forget the one thing that brings us solace and clarity: blogging. We get caught up in the hustle and bustle, trudging through each day without truly acknowledging our emotions and the moments that shape our existence. It’s high time we reserve a precious minute to reflect on the season we find ourselves in.

For me, changes have been abundant. My son recently joined the army, my daughter embarked on a new job, and my husband and I purchased a new house. Amidst all this, my gifted child struggled in school, my middle child neglected homework, and my youngest seemed to lose her sense of purpose. I can’t begin to describe the stressors and emotional turmoil that come with these challenges in a simple blog.

My emotions have become an unpredictable rollercoaster, skyrocketing to new heights and plummeting to unexpected depths. I find myself on the verge of tears at times, unable to control the triggers that surround me. It’s overwhelming.

But here’s the thing: I refuse to let these circumstances define me. I refuse to let the chaos consume my spirit. And I refuse to let my emotions hold me hostage. It’s time to regain control, to find my voice amidst the turmoil, and to share my journey with others who may be facing their own battles.

Listen up, my friends. In this crazy rollercoaster we call life, it’s important to remember one thing: everything is going to be alright. Trust me, I’ve seen it time and time again. The struggles we face today? Just a blimp on the radar of our 80+ year journey.

Now, let’s talk about choices. We all have the power to shape our story. We can choose to wallow in negativity, be selfish, and let anger and sadness consume us. Or, we can choose a different path. A path of kindness, tolerance, acceptance, and unconditional love.

Believe me, I get it. It’s not always easy. Sometimes, it feels like an uphill battle just to get there. But here’s the secret: it’s all about focus. Stay driven. Stay determined. Give your worries to a higher power and hope for the best. Today, I made the decision to do just that.

And I invite you to join me. Let’s shed the burdens that weigh us down, let’s put our trust in something bigger. Let’s find closure, break bread, and share a drink. Because in the grand scheme of things, we are all in this together.

Remember, my friends: this too shall pass. Keep your eyes on the horizon, and have faith that brighter days await us. The choice is yours. Let’s embrace it.

amwriting

You’re Invited-DFW 2019 Author Gala

Reba Nietert

On September 27, 2019, we will be hosting the largest Author gala where all literary professionals come together for one social event. The idea is to encourage, inspire, and lift up a fellow author by sharing his or her work. In turn, they will share yours.

Our mission is to be the number one resource for authors in DFW.  Our platform is designed to provide authors with connections to contractors such as:

  • Illustrators
  • Editors
  • Cover Designers
  • Formatters
  • Coaches
  • Publishers
  • Agents
  • and all literary professionals.

Our goal is to connect professionals with the authors who need them. In addition to networking, we have designed fun, intellectual gatherings for like-minded individuals in social typesetting to interact, share, support and encourage.  We will host a variety of events including networking, “tea-time,” one on one meetings to face challenges head-on, instruction, and all kinds of support.  Our annual Writer’s Retreat is not to be missed. Please feel free to check our online calendar to see the upcoming events, and if at any time you would like to participate in the festivities please subscribe to our email and consider becoming a founding member.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/networking-with-the-author-gala-tickets-70017970635

amwriting, books, Human Interest, Inspiration, Opinion, politics, Reflection, Revelations

An Army Family Now – Proud & Scared

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

The day I witnessed my 24-year-old son make the selfless decision to join the Army, it was a bittersweet moment. As I saw him willingly trade his fully successful and independent life for the service of our U.S. Government, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of pride mixed with sadness. The pride in his eyes mirrored my own, but the weight of his sacrifice brought tears to my eyes that seemed to last for days.

Today, however, I find myself rekindled with a newfound purpose in my own life. Thoughts of my son and our last conversations linger in my mind. I replay every word he spoke to me, trying to understand the reasons behind his choice to enlist in the Army.

To some, I may come across as ungrateful or lacking in appreciation for his decision. But let me assure you, I am immensely proud that my son would willingly surrender his own freedom for the sake of protecting ours. Such a choice in itself is incredibly honorable.

Yet, I can’t deny that I am plagued with a mixture of pensiveness, apprehension, and fear. It stems from the understanding that not every young man who enters the Army returns home unscathed. Perhaps it’s the things I have witnessed and the experiences that have befallen me, experiences that many people haven’t had the misfortune of encountering.

But in the midst of my concerns, I have faith in the well-oiled machinery of the military, and the countless brave men and women who have selflessly served before my son. They have all contributed to the safety and security of our nation, and I believe my son will join their ranks.

Though my heart aches with worry, I know that he enters this noble profession with the utmost dedication and a mind ready for the challenges ahead. I trust that he will be equipped with the training, support, and camaraderie necessary to face any adversity that may lie in his path. And though there will undoubtedly be difficult moments, I am hopeful that the positive impact he will make and the growth he will experience will far outweigh the struggles.

So, as a proud parent, I stand behind my son’s decision to serve, and I am grateful for every individual who chooses to defend our freedoms. This is a calling that requires tremendous courage, commitment, and sacrifice. It’s a choice that not everyone is willing or able to make.

To all the brave individuals who have willingly entered the military, to those who have served before, and to those who continue to serve today, we owe an immeasurable debt of gratitude. It is because of their unwavering dedication that we can enjoy the liberties we hold dear.

While my heart may remain heavy with worry, I have faith in the resilience and strength of our armed forces. They are the guardians of our nation, the protectors of our way of life. And I am proud to be the parent of a soldier who has answered the honorable call to serve.

Human Interest

Amidst the Troubles – Remember You’re Not Alone

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

Late at night, worry consumes my thoughts. There’s a never-ending list of concerns: my son joining the Army, my kids’ relationships, bills piling up, commitments, navigating interpersonal dynamics – the weight of it all feels overwhelming. And to top it off, there’s a myriad of stressors like cultivating relationships, maintaining a marriage, caring for ailing family members and animals. It’s no wonder I’m wide awake, with worries racing through my mind.

But amidst all these troubles, an even more pressing question begs for an answer: why do certain individuals within a company intentionally hurt others for selfish reasons? What motivates them to cause harm while hiding behind others to achieve their goals? And why do they act surprised when their actions yield negative consequences? My son suggests that it’s a lack of empathy, a “disconnect” with people, a failure to learn compassion.

Today, I received a dreadful email that shook me to my core. I made sure to fully absorb the weight of this person’s attempt to bully me into compliance, merely for posting a less-than-favorable review. Yet, astonishingly, his company continues to contact me! They resort to threats, inadvertently proving just how remarkably inept they truly are.

It’s time to take a stand against these injustices. No one should live in fear of unfair treatment or manipulative tactics. Let’s unite against those who perpetuate harm, and advocate for a world where empathy and compassion prevail. Together, we can make a difference and ensure that kindness triumphs over cruelty.

Remember, you are not alone in your struggles. Reach out for support, share your story, and let the world see that we refuse to be silenced. Together, we can create a future where empathy shines brightly and harmful intentions are utterly powerless. Stand strong, and let your voice be heard.

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Laughing At Myself – Laying Down Pride

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

Join us on an unforgettable adventure with friends as we embark on a brisk evening walk. It all started when I invited my two besties, one 13 years old, the other my age, to accompany me on this journey. Curiosity arose from their sweet souls as they inquired about the presence of my youngest, a sprightly 12-year-old named Laura. With a smile, I informed them that Laura was not at home, but if she were, we would discover a newfound swiftness during our stroll, as she possesses a natural speed envied by even the most outstanding athletes. Chuckling, we set off together.

As fate would have it, serendipity intervened, and to our surprise, Laura returned home, hastily dropped her belongings, and sprinted down the street to meet us around the corner. Her energy was contagious. What started as a leisurely walk slowly transformed into an exhilarating game of trying to outmaneuver and outpace Laura.

As the night deepened and weariness began to tug at our muscles, we realized we were merely 30 minutes into our journey with another 15 minutes remaining. Darkness enveloped our surroundings, adding an air of mystery to our adventure.

It was finally my turn to demonstrate my abilities. Determined to keep up, I propelled myself through the grass, exerting all the force I could muster. Yet, fate had a different plan. In an unforeseen moment, my foot stumbled upon an unsuspecting divot hidden beneath the foliage. The notion of catching up with Laura in the dark now seemed ludicrous. In an instant, my pride shattered as I found myself face planted, my knees sinking into the soil. The humiliation washed over me, and I couldn’t help but laugh, knowing that I alone was at fault for my misstep.

Join us on this compelling journey where laughter, camaraderie, and unexpected obstacles forge unforgettable memories. Let us remind ourselves that in life, it’s not always about winning, but about embracing the joy of stumbling, laughing, and discovering the irreplaceable bonds of friendship. Together, we’ll experience moments that leave us humbled and grateful for life’s beautiful imperfections.

Don’t miss this opportunity to embark on an extraordinary adventure with friends. Allow us to guide you through tales that will warm your heart and evoke a sense of shared humanity. Come, let us weave a tapestry of unforgettable experiences – because life is an adventure worth living.

Journal Entry

Ode to ZUES! – a Cat or a Lion?

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

Let me share a heartwarming story about my husband’s thoughtful gesture that has made my outdoor experience truly amazing. Recently, he surprised me by installing a beautiful gazebo right outside my back door, just beside the pool. It was designed specifically to accommodate my cherished outdoor wicker furniture, providing a cozy and protected space for me to relax.

Now, living in a foliage-rich backyard comes with its challenges. We had been struggling with the constant debris that the wind would bring and how it would affect my furniture. Every time I wanted to enjoy my outdoor oasis, I found myself constantly cleaning before I could even sit down. But my loving husband had a solution in mind – a portable gazebo that came at a bit of a price, but oh, so worth it.

Not only does this fantastic addition offer me a shaded respite from the blazing Texas sun, but it also serves another purpose. As an avid writer, I love to take my work outdoors. With this gazebo, I can now comfortably see my laptop screen, effectively merging my passion for writing and my love for nature.

Now, let me introduce you to someone special – my inquisitive feline friend. He has developed a keen sense for new additions in our home or backyard, promptly investigating each one with utmost curiosity. This morning, as he stepd outside to inspect the gazebo, I observed him with great interest. His back arched gracefully, his ears perked up, and his eyes widened in amazement. Clearly, he couldn’t resist exploring this exciting new addition.

This story is a testament to the joy and delight that can come from a simple act of kindness. My husband’s thoughtful gift has not only brought convenience and comfort to my outdoor haven but has also given our furry friend something new to discover and enjoy.

In the end, it’s moments like these that remind us of the simple pleasures in life. They remind us to find magic in unexpected places and appreciate the thoughtfulness of our loved ones. As I continue to cherish my tidy home and the unique quirks of my beloved cat, I’m grateful for the incredible experiences and memories that unfold right in my backyard.

So, dear friends, let this heartwarming tale be a reminder to embrace the small wonders life has to offer and to cherish the loving gestures that make each day a little more special.

NOTE: my cat passed away in 2023. The vet said that he was poisoned, and it shut down his kidneys. He got jaundice, anorexia, and died.

amwriting, Inspiration

The Grand Tapestry of Life: Appreciation of Children

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

This morning, my day started off with a bang, courtesy of my two adorable children. Just as the sun began to rise, my firstborn declared, for the second time in as many weeks, “I am sick.” A quick check of her temperature confirmed her claim. As I comforted her, I heard my younger child’s voice piercing the air, “Zeus, our mischievous feline, has done it again! He’s caught another bunny!” Without hesitation, I rushed to the scene and saved the furry little creature, all the while lecturing it about the dangers of the outside world during the day. Alas, bunnies are not known for their listening skills.

But the chaos didn’t end there. My little angel, with her signature 13-year-old attitude, announced, “My phone is BROKEN AGAIN!” Incredulous, I replied, “Phones just don’t break!” She shot back, unyielding, “Well, mine did!” I let out a heavy sigh, feeling a wave of frustration wash over me. I plugged the phone into its charger, firmly instructing her to consider the device worthless and find another means of reaching out to her friends. Finally, I retreated to the sanctuary of my favorite armchair, craving the solace of that first sip of coffee.

Life’s twists and turns may test our patience, but they also present opportunities for growth and resilience. As I pondered these morning mishaps, it struck me that sometimes we need to find alternative paths to navigate the challenges thrown our way. Just like my daughter must now explore new methods of communication, we too can adapt and find creative solutions to the obstacles we face.

The phone abruptly interrupted the tranquility of my day. It was my husband, frustration palpable in his voice, tangled in yet another battle with the indulgent insurance company. He pleaded for my help in locating a crucial document. My heart tugged, for he is undoubtedly the greatest man I have ever had the privilege of knowing. And so, with a deep breath, I set forth on a mission to aid him, as always.

Yet, there are times when I feel the strain of his recurrent circumstances. When faced with challenges, whether pertaining to health, choices, or any other myriad factors, do we not hold the responsibility of forging our own path to rectify the situation? Should we not bear the burdens of our own circumstances? These weighty ponderings often lead to intricate arguments, as both partners contend with feelings of overextension, taking things for granted, or simply not paying attention. Such complexities are the essence of every relationship. Even mine, which, while wondrously close to perfection, is not exempt from such struggles.

Make no mistake, I count my blessings fervently. I steadfastly seek solace and favor in the divine grace of God, adhering to my maternal commandments as a devoted wife and mother. However, amid these roles and responsibilities, there are moments when I yearn for respite. Moments when I long to unravel the worries that ceaselessly revolve around my mind. Moments when I want to focus on myself, to indulge in the trivial luxuries of life, like having my hair elegantly styled or getting my nails meticulously manicured, without the constant interruptions that stem from my loved ones’ needs.

Still, I embrace my duties, knowing they are woven into the fabric of who I am. I navigate this delicate dance, finding the balance between selflessness and self-care. Though imperfect, my relationship thrives on the love and effort poured into its foundation. It is within this intricate web of responsibilities and desires that true growth and resilience reside.

In the grand tapestry of life, we are called to cherish and nurture our relationships, to stand by our loved ones through the tumultuous storms. And while the winds of responsibility may sometimes threaten to uproot our equilibrium, it is in these moments that we find strength, love, and the unwavering desire to make each day extraordinary.

amwriting

The Showgirl Stretch! – An Audition

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

Once upon a time last weekend, in a world where surprises lurk around every corner, I found myself faced with an unexpected opportunity. My friend, bless her adventurous soul, had invited me to audition for the Dallas Dance Follies for seniors. Can you believe it? Me, a brand new senior, dancing on stage in front of people? At first, it seemed like a ludicrous idea. I mean, does she even know me at all? But then it hit me. She knows me better than I thought. She was inviting me into her world, a world where the sheer joy of dance infects lives and brings boundless happiness.

In the past year, I’ve embarked on a journey to be more present, to live in the moment, and to embrace joy and happiness. And you know what? The more I’ve thrown myself into it, the more fun I’ve had. No longer stuck in the rut of my discontent, I’ve been striving to break free from my comfort zones and become the person I truly want to be. Picture this: a thriving, well-rounded individual, in tip-top physical condition, with a smile that can light up a room. That’s the vision I’ve been working towards.

So, with the fire of determination burning within me, I decided to take my friend up on her audacious offer and audition for the Dallas Dance Follies. Little did I know that the experience would surprise me in the most unexpected way. As I stepped into the audition room, memories of a time when dance consumed my every thought flooded back. Once upon a time, this was all I lived for. I was good, I was passionate, and I knew the rhythm of life through each graceful movement.

But, as fate would have it, I had lost touch with that mesmerizing art form. Time had slipped away, and with it went my dance abilities. In that audition room, I stumbled and faltered, feeling like a novice navigating uncharted territory. Yet amidst the missteps and forgotten routines, a spark ignited within me. I realized that this audition was more than just an opportunity to dazzle the judges with my dance prowess; it was a chance to rediscover my long-lost passion, to reignite the fire that had once burned so brightly.

So, regardless of the outcome, I danced with everything I had. The sheer joy of movement filled every inch of my being, reminding me why dance had captured my heart in the first place. And you know what? It didn’t matter that I wasn’t as polished as I used to be. What mattered was that I had taken that leap, pushed myself beyond my limits, and embraced the magic of dance once more.

As the audition came to an end, I couldn’t help but smile. Maybe this journey was about more than just joining the Dallas Dance Follies. Perhaps it was a reminder that life is full of surprises, that it’s never too late to chase our dreams and reignite our passions. So, my friends, join me on this whimsical adventure as we dance through life, embracing every step with childlike wonder and playful enthusiasm. After all, it’s never too late to find the rhythm that moves your soul.