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Worthy of Love, by Jacob Nightingale

Reba Nietert

“We instinctually measure our self-worth based on our perceived value to the tribe that surrounds us, and unfortunately, I am a rocket scientist on a football team.” 

Find your Tribe, and there you will discover your value. Find your willingness, and there you will decide your worth. 

We were all innocent once. A child; vulnerable and uncertain. We struggled to make sense of the world. Nothing was certain except for our undying love and devotion to those we valued. We gave our trust freely to those we loved, without reservation. We would do anything to please them, and give anything to see them happy. There is no greater devotion than the love of a child and every child wants to believe they are loved equally in return. A child is always seeking feedback and reassurance, because they want to know one thing—if they too, are worthy of love. Our body may have grown and our spirit has matured, but that child still wants to know, “am I worthy to be loved?”

Worthiness is measured, not by how much you are loved, or by how much love you have been given. Worthiness is measured by how much love and devotion you are willing to give.

A child is born willing to give ALL their love and devotion; no one is more worthy of love than a child.

Like all children, we’re all pure potential. Our Will is the very essence of our potential and we are free to create ourselves however we choose. Is there a such thing as worthless potential? 

No one is worthless; we are all a work in progress, and our progress, our worth, is based solely on our willingness to learn, grow, and improve.  

While we can measure our “value” based on our past contributions and accomplishments, it’s solely based on another’s appreciation and value for what we gave. However, our worthiness, is only effectively measured by our willingness to give, and whether we did the best we could with what we had.

Are you worthy of being a friend, parent, leader, partner, spouse, doctor, student, artist, author…?

Love is the devotion to creating value, contributing, supporting, actualizing dreams, and nurturing growth, improvement, creation, and connection. If your worthiness is based on your willingness to give love and devotion, you need only to ask, “How much love and devotion am I willing to give?” This is your worthiness.    

Are you worthy of Leading? 

How much are you willing to give those that choose to follow you; to nurture, inspire, guide and support their growth and improvement?

Are you worthy of being a parent?

How much are you willing to give your child love and devotion; to support their development, to offer comfort and safety, and to nurture their growth?

Are you worthy of being a friend or romantic partner?

How much are you willing to give love and devotion to the relationship, to nurture each other’s growth and aspirations? 

Are you worthy of creating success?

How much are you willing to give to reach your objectives?

Are you worthy of love and devotion from another?

How much love and devotion are you willing to give?

While we cannot state another’s worth, we can decide if it’s “worth it” to give. When you give to someone, you are investing a part of yourself to them, and for someone to be worth it, they must be willing to accept and willing to invest. If someone is unwilling to give, how can they be worthy of what we are giving? If they are unwilling to grow and improve or to contribute and nurture growth, how can they be worthy of our support and contribution? If someone is unwilling to give love and devotion, is it worth it to give them ours? We cannot allow ourselves to give to those that are unwilling, and if we are unwilling, we are not worthy of what others are willing to give. 

It’s amazing how this simple shift in perception can change everything; it can break down the chains of self-doubt, worry, and insecurity. You don’t need to ask whether someone else finds you worthy. You can measure your own worthiness and the worthiness of those you keep in your life. If you are willing to give love, you’re worthy to be loved, and you are worth every ounce of love you have in your heart. That small child can find peace and comfort, knowing that no matter how much they were cast aside, forgotten, or unfairly challenged, they always have been and always will be “worthy of love.”

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Celebrating Sisterhood: Nurturing Bonds of Support and Understanding

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In a world brimming with diverse personalities, interactions between women can sometimes become tangled, leading to the perpetuation of stereotypes and a lack of genuine connection. Today, we embark on a journey to understand the complexities that can arise in female relationships and shed light on the immense potential for love, support, and understanding that lies within us all. By exploring the different facets of womanhood, we hope to cultivate a sense of unity and empathy among women, fostering a stronger sisterhood.

The Tug of Insecurities:

Too often, societal pressures and unrealistic beauty standards contribute to women feeling anxious and insecure in the presence of their female peers. This anxiety can manifest as subconscious competition, as women strive to match prescribed ideals. However, it is crucial to recognize that these feelings are not innate, but rather the byproduct of a society that too often pits women against each other. By shifting our focus towards celebrating individuality and supporting one another’s unique journeys, we can dismantle these insecurities and create a nurturing environment for growth.

The Power of Empathy:

As women, we possess the profound capacity for understanding and empathy. However, this power often remains untapped due to societal conditioning that encourages competition and comparison. By embracing empathy, we can break free from this cycle and build authentic connections with other women, recognizing that each person’s journey is unique and valid. Empathy allows us to see beyond the surface and delve into the depths of shared experiences, forming bonds rooted in compassion and understanding.

Breaking Down Stereotypes:

Stereotypes can be a damaging force in hindering the progress of female relationships. The notion that women are inherently judgmental or competitive does not reflect the complexity and diversity of our gender. Instead, let us remember that stereotypes do not define us but can be overcome through open-mindedness and challenging preconceived notions. By nurturing an inclusive and accepting mindset, we pave the way for positive interactions and genuine connections in our relationships.

The Strength in Sisterhood:

When women come together in unity, they possess an unparalleled strength. By embracing and supporting each other, we can tap into a wellspring of shared wisdom, diversity, and resilience. Genuine sisterhood celebrates achievements, encourages personal growth, and uplifts one another during trials and tribulations. By empowering one another, we create a safe space where vulnerability is embraced and genuine connections thrive.

Reframing the Narrative:

Next time you observe a woman who seems distant or guarded, consider the intricate web of societal influence that she may be entangled in. By reframing our perception, we can cultivate a more compassionate understanding of one another’s experiences. Let us challenge the stereotypes that seek to divide us and strive to foster an environment of unity, acceptance, and love.

Conclusion:

In a world where women are often pitted against one another, it is imperative that we nurture a community rooted in love, support, and understanding. By recognizing the influence of societal pressures, embracing empathy, challenging stereotypes, and celebrating the strength in sisterhood, we can rewrite the narrative and pave the way for genuine connections. Together, let us rise above competition and foster a profound sense of unity among women, knowing that our diversity is an asset to be cherished and celebrated.

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Healing Wounds of the Past: A Journey Towards Self-Love and Empowerment

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In the depths of adversity, the human spirit finds its true strength. Join me on an intimate journey of self-discovery as we unwrap the layers of a painful past and explore the transformative power of love. Through the darkness of abuse and emotional turmoil, we will witness the incredible resilience of the human spirit and discover the path towards healing and embracing a life filled with love.

Embracing the Shadows: A Story of Survival:

In the haunting recesses of a tumultuous childhood, I sought solace in the sanctuary of a closet, hiding from my mother’s rage. The echoes of her screams filled my ears as tears streamed down my face. These painful memories etched themselves deep within me, leaving wounds of abandonment and fear. Yet, it is through acknowledging our shadows that we unlock the capacity to heal and reclaim our power.

Understanding the Cycle of Hurt:

My mother’s rage was fueled by her own experiences of abuse and abandonment. She was trapped in a vicious cycle of pain, projecting her own scars onto those closest to her. In her darkest moments, she proclaimed that no man would ever love or care for me. It was an assertion borne out of her own suffering, a cry for understanding and healing. But in her desperate words, I found the strength to challenge and transcend the patterns that threatened to define my own life.

The Journey to Self-Love:

Healing begins with self-love, a profound act of reclaiming our worthiness and refusing to be defined by the scars of our past. As I emerged from the shadow of my mother’s rage, I embarked on an inward journey of self-discovery and healing. Through introspection, self-compassion, and therapy, I unraveled the layers of pain, nurturing a newfound love and acceptance for myself. In this journey, I discovered that no external validation could ever replace the love I have for myself.

Breaking the Cycle, Embracing Empowerment:

The cycle of hurt can only be broken when we confront our own wounds and make a conscious choice to rise above them. By recognizing the patterns that have shaped our lives, we empower ourselves to create a different reality. Through education, therapy, and fostering healthy relationships, we can rewrite our narrative and replace the destructive echoes of our past with a resounding affirmation of self-love.

Love as a Catalyst for Healing:

Love has the power to transform even the most broken parts of our existence. By surrounding ourselves with a support network of compassionate individuals who nurture and uplift us, we create an environment that fosters healing. Whether it be through the unwavering support of friends or professional guidance, we can find solace in the love and understanding we receive, fueling our journey towards healing and empowerment.

Conclusion:

Our past does not dictate our future. Despite the harrowing experiences we may have endured, it is through love and self-compassion that we can rewrite our stories and redefine our lives. In embracing our shadows and healing our wounds, we release ourselves from the cycles of hurt that once held us captive, allowing love to blossom in our hearts.

To all those who have lived through the darkness, let this be a reminder that healing is possible and that your past does not define you. You are deserving of love, happiness, and a life filled with fulfillment. May you find the strength within to embrace your own journey of healing and walk courageously towards a future bathed in the warm embrace of love.

With compassion and resilience,

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Unlocking True Happiness: Embracing Life’s Everyday Joys

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In a world where true happiness often feels like an elusive dream, moments of genuine joy bring a unique sense of fulfillment. It is these moments that remind us of the profound beauty and significance found in our everyday lives. Just like in the movie “Yours, Mine and Ours,” where Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda emphasize the connection between drudgery and big events, let us explore the idea that true happiness emerges from our ability to appreciate both the mundane and extraordinary. As I recently experienced, finding myself surrounded by incredible women, sharing heartfelt moments and infectious laughter, I came to realize that true happiness resides in the simplest of joys.

1. The Illusion of Constant Happiness:

Happiness is not an eternal state; it is an ever-changing emotion that ebbs and flows throughout our lives. Often, we expect happiness to be a constant presence, but this belief sets us up for disappointment. Understanding that happiness is a fleeting emotion allows us to appreciate those moments when it graces our lives, however brief they may be.

2. Finding Joy in the Ordinary:

In the pursuit of happiness, we often overlook the extraordinary beauty found in the mundane. It is in the everyday routines, the small acts of kindness, and the quiet moments that we encounter pure joy. Take a moment to appreciate the warmth of a sunrise, the laughter of loved ones, or the simple pleasure of a good book. By shifting our focus to the present, we can uncover happiness hidden in the ordinary.

3. Authentic Connections:

True happiness blossoms in the company of others who uplift and inspire us. Surrounding ourselves with supportive and genuine individuals creates an environment where joy can flourish. It is in the company of these incredible women that I realized the power of authentic connections – the ability to openly share, listen, and laugh uninhibitedly. These moments remind us of our shared humanity and reinforce the significance of genuine human connections.

4. Embracing Life’s Story:

Each of us carries a unique narrative, filled with challenges, triumphs, and compelling experiences. Sharing our stories fosters empathy and understanding, creating a space where joy can thrive. By embracing our own stories and listening to those of others without judgment, we expand our capacity for happiness. Remember, it is through vulnerability and openness that we forge genuine connections and find solace in shared experiences.

5. The Power of Laughter:

Laughter has an unmatched ability to heal the spirit and uplift the soul. Even in the face of adversity, finding humor in life’s trials can ignite genuine happiness. Whether it is shared inside jokes, witty banter, or lighthearted moments, laughter unites us and reminds us of the preciousness of the present.

Conclusion:

As we navigate the complexities of life, the search for happiness often leads us astray. Yet, by recognizing the extraordinary within the ordinary, fostering authentic connections, embracing our stories, and letting laughter guide our journey, we can unlock true happiness. Let us not forget that happiness, like everything beautiful, is fleeting. So, embrace those moments when it finds you, savor them, and carry their essence with you as you navigate both the mundane and extraordinary. Remember, true happiness dwells within you, waiting to be discovered. Embrace life’s everyday joys and let your smile be a reflection of the happiness that resides in your heart.

So, open yourself up to the wonders of life and allow yourself to be embraced by the simple, priceless moments that bring you infinite joy.

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Embracing Wanderlust: A Journey Towards Constant Growth and Authenticity

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Welcome to a blog about embracing the beauty of wanderlust, personal growth, and the quest for authenticity. Life often presents us with opportunities to explore and evolve, challenging us to step out of our comfort zones. Today, we will navigate through the complexities of change, the joy of learning, and the longing for adventure that resides within each of us.

Chapter 1: Roots and the Power of Connection

For some, the significance of roots resonates in cultivating deep connections and finding solace in familiarity. The yearning for meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging is innately human. By valuing the bonds we create and cherishing the love we receive, we can nurture our sense of home wherever we may wander.

Chapter 2: The Quest for Constant Growth

The thirst for knowledge and personal development is an integral part of our journey. Embracing a mindset that incessantly seeks growth and learning opens doors to new perspectives and possibilities. Let us celebrate the addictive allure of acquiring knowledge, expanding our horizons, and evolving into our best selves.

Chapter 3: Igniting the Flame of Adventure

Adventure lies at the heart of our unique identities. It is the catalyst that propels us towards self-discovery and authenticity. Sometimes, we need the thrill of exploration, whether through plane rides, road trips, or any form of escapade, to awaken our innate sense of adventure and reignite our spirits.

Chapter 4: Unleashing Authenticity Amidst the Daily Drudge

The daily grind can sometimes mask our authenticity, burying it beneath obligations and societal expectations. But deep within, an authentic self yearns to be acknowledged and celebrated. By daring to be true to ourselves, even amidst the monotony of a job or the demands of our daily routines, we unlock the uniqueness that defines us.

Chapter 5: Embracing Change and Finding Meaning

Change, although unsettling at times, carries within it the potential for growth and meaning. As we venture into the unknown, we must trust that change can lead us closer to a more authentic existence. By embracing the transformative power of change, we forge a path that aligns with our passions and purpose.

Conclusion:

Our journey towards embracing wanderlust is an ongoing adventure filled with constant growth and the pursuit of authenticity. As we cultivate deep connections, revel in the joy of learning, ignite our sense of adventure, and embrace change, we uncover the essence of who we truly are. By finding solace in roots and nourishing our thirst for growth, we can navigate the daily grind with purpose and meaning. So, let us embark on this journey together, celebrating the beauty of wanderlust and the boundless potential within each of us. Remember, your unique story unfolds with every step you take.

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Finding Solace in Divine Guidance: A Prayer for Inner Peace

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2011 – Rebecca Nietert

In the midst of life’s tribulations, we often find ourselves overwhelmed with worry, anger, and the burden of strained relationships. However, by turning to a higher power and seeking solace in prayer, we can find the inner peace and strength needed to navigate through the storms of life. Today, we gather to offer a heartfelt prayer, asking for forgiveness, guidance, and a renewed spirit of faith and love.

A Plea for Calm and Forgiveness

Dear God, as we come before you today, we humbly ask for your divine intervention. Please calm our troubled spirits and forgive us for any hurtful words or thoughts we may have directed towards others. We acknowledge our imperfections and the weight of unkind desires that burden us. Help us replace anger and worry with your peace and understanding.

Keeping Our Focus on Jesus

In times of distress, it is essential to keep our focus on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. May we fix our gaze upon Him, drawing strength and inspiration from His unwavering love and grace. Guide us, Lord, in our thoughts, actions, and interactions, so that we may reflect your presence in all that we do.

Sameness Turned Sour: Coping with Betrayal

There are moments in life when betrayal and disappointment strike at the core of our beings. We find ourselves hurt not by a stranger’s words or actions, but by those closest to us – our companions, our close friends. It is in such moments that our faith is truly tested. Yet, through our prayer, we seek the strength to endure, to heal, and to let go of the pain that threatens to consume us.

Becoming Steadfast Beacons of God’s Love

O Lord, grant us the wisdom to rise above the trials we face and become steady and stable individuals who radiate your divine love. In our interactions with others, may we be a source of comfort, uplifting spirits, and a testament to your mercy and glory. May our words and actions harmonize with your divine symphony, pleasing the Master Conductor, and spreading harmony throughout our lives.

Conclusion

As we conclude this prayer, let us be reminded that we are not alone in our struggles. Through prayer, we can find solace, forgiveness, and a renewed sense of purpose. May our hearts be refreshed and our faith strengthened as we entrust our worries and pain to a higher power. In the presence of God’s grace, let us strive to be beacons of love, healing, and encouragement for others, knowing that we are never forsaken on our journey towards inner peace. Amen.