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Chaos & Adversity Resides in the “Burbs”

Reba Nietert

Oh, what a glorious morning it’s been! Nothing like a dog launching itself onto your stomach to remind you you’re alive, right? Who needs an alarm clock when you’ve got a furry wrecking ball? Then, off I go to deliver blood—because what’s more exhilarating than starting your day with “that” little joy ride? Oh, and surprise! A bonus overdue bill that insurance *just didn’t feel like covering.* Ah, the thrill of adulting.

Next stop: Best Buy, where my $275-a-year warranty plan apparently only covers the privilege of being told, “Sorry, we can’t touch that because Mac is too fancy for us.” Cool, cool. No worries, I’ll call Mac support! Surely they’ll save the day. Spoiler alert: They didn’t. Their troubleshooting steps were so helpful that I still can’t remove “Find My Mac,” can’t ship it in, and oh, the nearest Mac store? Just a casual 80 miles away. Totally convenient.

Meanwhile, my inbox is blowing up with client emails. You know, because technology is supposed to make life easier—except when it doesn’t, and instead sets your soul on fire (just like my MacBook, which is now doubling as a space heater). I’ve got 10 minutes to get anything done before it overheats and turns into a toaster. And let’s not forget Scott, who’s juggling his own life while I’m over here like, “Hey, can you also help me not set my house on fire with this laptop?”

Speaking of fire hazards, I left the dogs home alone because clearly, today wasn’t chaotic enough. They’re probably redecorating the living room with teeth marks as we speak. Oh, and because I’m a genius, I decided to cook eggs on an empty stomach. Fast-forward 10 minutes, and I’m starring in my own one-person food poisoning drama. Salmonella for breakfast? Chef’s kiss.

And the best part? It’s not even 1 PM. Can’t wait to see what the rest of the day has in store. Maybe a meteor? Fingers crossed!

Wait though, another twist in the day of… Oh, the joys of modern technology, where your $3,500 “investment” from 2018 is now worth less than a decent dinner for two at a steakhouse. Let’s take a moment to appreciate your laptop’s midlife crisis: deciding to moonlight as a space heater while simultaneously developing an attitude problem with its spacebar and trackpad. It’s like it hit its rebellious teen years—five years late.

So, after nearly setting your lap on fire and enduring its refusal to play nice with your Apple ecosystem, you decide to take action. First stop: Best Buy, where your $270 warranty has aged like milk. “It’s been too long,” they say. Oh, you mean the “five years” since I bought this thing? My bad for thinking a warranty might actually, you know, “warrant”something.

Next up, the Apple Store. After an hour-long conversation with a guy who probably Googled your problem mid-call, you’re handed off to a salesperson with the charisma of a used car dealer. Their solution? Rip out your laptop’s guts, charge you $1,200, and offer no guarantees. Oh, and the cherry on top? That little smile when you mentioned erasing your data. Classic.

Back to Best Buy, where Jennifer is lovely (thank you, Jennifer), but the rest of the experience is like a corporate scavenger hunt. They can’t fix it because it’s “older”—a term that’s starting to feel personal at this point. Then, a helpful sales guy swoops in, dazzles you with AI talk, and shows you a shiny new Windows laptop. Great! Except when you look it up online, it’s $850, not the $1,100 he quoted. Oh, and your $3,500 MacBook? Worth $150 at Best Buy or a generous $200 if you’re willing to wait for Apple to mail you a check. What a deal.

So here you are, sitting with a glorified paperweight that doubles as a fire hazard, wondering if you should just sell a kidney to fund your new computer. Do you go without one? Well, considering your current laptop might spontaneously combust, it’s already halfway there. Maybe it’s time to embrace the “no-tech” lifestyle and start writing letters by candlelight. Or, you know, find a way to turn that space heater into a side hustle.

Inspiration

God in Motion – A Heartfelt Thank You!

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2016 – Rebecca Nietert

Jennifer and I have been inseparable for over two decades. We’ve laughed, cried, and shared countless memories together. But when she fell ill five years ago, it felt like our world shattered.

Doctors were baffled by her condition, running test after test, only to come up empty-handed. They knew something was wrong, but the elusive carcinoma remained hidden. It was a frustrating and agonizing period for Jennifer, who wanted nothing more than answers and relief from her suffering.

Then, two years later, the pain in her abdomen became unbearable. That’s when we received the earth-shattering news – liver cancer. The doctors suspected it had metastasized from another form of cancer, leading them to pose a simple question: “Have you ever had a mammogram?” Jennifer’s reply was heartbreaking – “No.” They had never thought to ask for that test.

In that heartbreaking moment, Jennifer received a sobering diagnosis. Stage four breast, pelvic, and liver metastasized cancers. Our family was devastated, unsure of what the future held for our beloved sister and friend.

But then came Dr. Trumbly, a beacon of hope amidst the turmoil. He looked into Jennifer’s eyes and promised to do everything in his power to ensure she had a fighting chance at a long and fulfilling life. And true to his word, he has gone above and beyond, exploring the latest treatments and advancements in cancer care.

Jennifer fought valiantly, conquering the battle twice, proving that she was a force to be reckoned with. Dr. Trumbly stood by her side every step of the way, providing unwavering support and delivering the newest treatments with unwavering dedication.

Yet, despite their efforts and Jennifer’s incredible resilience, she finds herself facing adversity once again. It’s a blow that has left us all reeling, uncertain of what lies ahead. But we refuse to give up hope, knowing that Jennifer’s tenacity and Dr. Trumbly’s expertise may yet prevail.

This is not just a story of illness, but a testament to the power of friendship, love, and the unwavering determination of a doctor who refuses to surrender. Jennifer’s journey is a reminder to us all that even in the darkest of times, there is always a flicker of hope.

So, as I sit here, penning this heartfelt account, I want to urge you to cherish every moment with those you hold dear. Embrace the joy, the laughter, and the love that surrounds you. And remember, there are heroes out there like Dr. Trumbly, warriors like Jennifer, who continue to defy the odds and inspire us all.

Together, let us lend our support, raise awareness, and stand united in the fight against cancer. Because if there’s one thing we’ve learned from Jennifer’s journey, it’s that there is strength in love and hope, and miracles can happen when we least expect them.

Inspiration

Navigating Empathy and Personal Growth in Times of Pain

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

There are moments in life when we find ourselves deeply immersed in the pain of others, feeling their anguish with an understanding that it is not our own. It is during these times that self-reflection becomes crucial, as we evaluate our own behavior and strive to become the person we believe we are meant to be. However, the path to personal growth is not without its challenges, and the overwhelming presence of empathy can sometimes cloud our judgment. In this blog, we delve into the complexities of empathy and self-perspective, exploring the struggle to maintain personal integrity when faced with intense emotions.

The Burden of Empathy:

Empathy is a remarkable gift that allows us to connect with others on a profound level. It enables us to share in their joys and sorrows, bridging the gap between our experiences and theirs. However, when we constantly shoulder the pain of others, it becomes a heavy burden to bear. Feeling the empathy deeply, as though it cuts through our hearts like a jagged knife, can take a toll on our emotional well-being. Balancing the desire to help and support others while also caring for ourselves requires a delicate equilibrium.

The Journey of Self-Reflection:

Working on personal growth and self-improvement is a lifelong journey that demands constant evaluation of our thoughts, actions, and beliefs. It involves aligning ourselves with our sense of right and wrong, even when it feels like we have no other choice. However, this journey is not without its obstacles, and self-perspective becomes more challenging when confronted with intense pain. It is crucial to acknowledge our limitations and seek clarity in the face of overwhelming emotions.

The Power of Integrity:

Living a life of integrity means holding ourselves to the same standard of justice, fairness, and decency that we expect from others. It requires a commitment to personal growth and an unwavering dedication to upholding our core values. While this approach serves as a compass for navigating life’s complexities, it can be difficult to maintain when empathy consumes us. Balancing our own well-being while extending compassion to others becomes a delicate dance of self-care and altruism.

Navigating Moments of Struggle:

We all face periods of struggle, where various factors challenge our ability to maintain personal integrity. In the context of your novel not receiving the attention you believe it deserves, it’s natural to feel disheartened and frustrated. These moments can threaten to overshadow our personal growth, causing us to question our beliefs and lose sight of our path. However, it is essential to remind ourselves that setbacks do not define us, and our resilience lies in how we respond to adversity.

Seeking Healing and Growth:

In moments of pain and struggle, it is crucial to prioritize self-care and seek avenues for healing and growth. This may involve finding solace in our creative endeavors, seeking support from loved ones, or reaching out to professional resources. By nurturing ourselves, we can regain clarity and strength, allowing us to continue our journey of personal growth with renewed purpose and a deeper sense of empathy for others.

Conclusion:

Embracing empathy while navigating personal growth can be a challenging endeavor. We must learn to balance our desire to support others with the need to care for ourselves. By cultivating self-awareness and constantly evaluating our actions in alignment with our values, we can strive to become the best versions of ourselves. Through self-reflection, embracing vulnerability, and seeking healing, we create a space for empathy and personal growth to coexist harmoniously. Remember, your journey is ongoing, and your ability to empathize while staying true to your values is a testament to your character.

Inspiration, Opinion

Navigating Through a Loved One’s Journey: The Agony of Powerlessness

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

There are few pains as heart-wrenching as watching a loved one hurtling towards an inevitable collision with something that will cause them pain. It could be substance abuse, destructive relationships, poor choices, or ill-suited companionships. As a parent or someone close to them, the desire to scream “STOP!” is overwhelming. We yearn to shield them from the hurt and guide them on a path towards healing. Yet, we find ourselves grappling with an insurmountable sense of powerlessness. In this blog, we will explore the anguish of witnessing our loved ones navigate life’s obstacles, and the delicate balance between offering support and respecting their journey.

The Urge to Protect:

As we witness someone we care deeply about making decisions that could lead to anguish, our instinct is to shield them from pain. We long to define their hurt, offering guidance and a path to avoid or overcome it. However, this well-intentioned desire to protect is often met with resistance. Our loved ones insist on experiencing their own triumphs and tribulations, and any unsolicited advice or attempted intervention may push them further away.

The Reality of Powerlessness:

Accepting our powerlessness is a bitter pill to swallow. We may possess wisdom, experiences, and knowledge, but it becomes futile if not sought or accepted by the ones we care for. Understanding this truth is crucial in maintaining our own emotional well-being and preserving the connection with our loved ones.

Finding Healing Within:

While we cannot control the choices or experiences of those we care about, we have the power to influence our own healing journey. It is essential to focus on self-care, seeking solace in activities that nourish our souls and offer respite from the pain. By taking care of ourselves, we can better support our loved ones when they do open up to receiving help or guidance.

The Art of Boundaries:

Maintaining healthy boundaries is vital in the midst of the chaos and turmoil that may surround our loved ones. Setting clear limits on toxic behavior, drama, and manipulation allows us to protect our own mental and emotional well-being. By creating a safe space for ourselves, we can offer a compassionate presence when our loved ones are ready to lean on us.

Taking a Step Back:

Recognizing that everyone must navigate their own journey is an act of love and respect. While it may feel agonizing to watch someone suffer, it is crucial to honor their autonomy and let them find their path. Remember, growth often arises from personal experiences, and forcing our own solutions onto loved ones may hinder their learning and personal development.

Conclusion:

Caring deeply for someone means witnessing their struggles, even when it feels excruciatingly painful. In these moments, embracing our own powerlessness becomes an act of love and understanding. By focusing on our own healing, setting boundaries, and respecting the autonomy of our loved ones, we can nurture healthier relationships and provide a solid foundation for support when they choose to seek it. And through it all, we must remember that their journey is uniquely theirs, and sometimes the greatest act of love is simply being there, ready to provide an empathetic ear or a comforting presence when they need it most.

Inspiration

Cultivating Empathy: Walking a Mile in Someone Else’s Shoes

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

In our lives, we may sometimes forget to acknowledge the pain others go through when our own experiences have not been as intense. It is important, however, to recognize that pain exists and affects each individual differently. As someone who has faced immense burdens throughout life, I may have at times appeared dismissive or insensitive. But it is not because I haven’t experienced hardship; rather, it is because I am not currently walking in your shoes. In this blog, let us explore the significance of empathy, the importance of sharing burdens, and the power of understanding one another’s pain.

Acknowledging the Spectrum of Pain:

Pain is a deeply personal and subjective experience. While some individuals may perceive certain obstacles as mere hindrances, others may experience them as overwhelming burdens. We must understand that the measure of pain varies from person to person, and it is not our place to minimize someone else’s suffering. By acknowledging this spectrum of pain, we open ourselves to a path of empathy and connection.

Avoiding the Crustacean Retreat:

It is natural to be hesitant to delve into the pain of others, as it can remind us of our own struggles. However, it is important to recognize that empathy is a powerful force that can unite and uplift us. Rather than retreating like a crab, seeking our own comfort, we should make an effort to extend our hand of support to those hurting around us. By doing so, we foster a community built on compassion and understanding.

Embracing Empathy:

In the pursuit of true empathy, we must step out of our own experiences and actively listen to others. The loss of a loved one, unemployment, or any other life event may appear as obstacles that are easily overcome to some, but to others, they may be their biggest burdens. By fostering a mindset of empathy, we create space for individuals to share their stories, truly understand their pain, and offer solace and support.

A Call for Shared Burdens:

Sharing our own burdens is essential, but it is equally important to uplift others by shouldering a portion of their burden. By reaching out to those in need, we bridge the gap between our experiences, fostering a sense of unity and healing. We can lift each other up through acts of kindness, compassion, and understanding.

The Power of Empathetic Action:

Empathy becomes meaningful when it translates into action. Small gestures of support and empathy can make a profound impact on others’ lives. Together, we can create a supportive environment where everyone feels seen, heard, and understood. By proactively taking steps to walk in someone else’s shoes, we foster a culture of empathy that benefits both individuals and society as a whole.

Conclusion:

Empathy is not about pretending to fully comprehend another person’s pain. It is about recognizing the spectrum of pain, extending support, and trying to understand one another. Let us strive to cultivate empathy by embracing the burden of others and by actively listening and offering compassion. Together, we can create a world where empathy is valued, understood, and practiced.

Inspiration

Embracing Heartache: Navigating a World Lacking Compassion

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Within the depths of our hearts, hidden beneath layers of joy and contentment, lies an immense sadness that weighs upon us. It is as if our very essence has been tainted with a heaviness, coursing through our veins and echoing through the hollow chambers of our souls. In this moment, my friends, I stand before you, shattered and heartbroken, unable to fully express the depths of my sorrow. Yet, the source of this pain is rooted in the boundless love I hold for the one who has caused it.

The Burden of Unconditional Love:

In this fleeting existence, we often find ourselves contemplating a world that can be devoid of compassion. Navigating through the harsh realities of life can be harsher than any promise we hold dear. From the burdensome weight of societal behaviors to the erosion of values and moral decline, it is a challenging journey to engage with this world. And, it is within these perplexing moments that unconditional love becomes both a solace and a torment.

The Exquisite Pain of Unrequited Love:

The pain that grips our very soul is born from a love that knows no conditions. It is a love that defies reason, expectation, and sometimes even reciprocation. To love someone unconditionally is to expose our vulnerability, laying our heart bare before them, and entrusting them with our deepest emotions. However, when this love goes unreturned, it inflicts an exquisite pain, the depths of which only those who have experienced it can fully comprehend.

The Delicate Balance:

As we navigate this fragile existence, it is essential to find a balance between the unyielding love that resides in our hearts and the need to protect ourselves from continuous heartache. While love is an inherent part of our human experience, it is equally vital to recognize our own worth and set boundaries when necessary. It is not a betrayal of love but rather an act of self-preservation.

Finding Healing in Compassion:

While we may encounter a world lacking compassion, it is crucial that we purposefully choose to be the bearers of empathy and understanding. By extending compassion to others, we not only alleviate their suffering but also find a balm for our own wounded hearts. In seeking to understand the experiences and perspectives of others, we can heal and find solace in the power of compassion.

Conclusion:

To love unconditionally is a courageous act, one that exposes us to both profound joy and profound pain. As we navigate a world that often lacks compassion, it is imperative that we find solace in the richness of our own hearts. Let us embrace our heartache, acknowledging its presence as a testament to our capacity to love deeply. And in that vulnerability, let us also extend compassion to others. For in nurturing compassion within ourselves and radiating it into the world, we can begin to heal the wounds that bind us and forge a path towards a more empathetic and compassionate future.

Remember, even in the depths of our sorrow, we possess the strength to rise above and cultivate compassion where it is needed most.

Inspiration

Rising Above: The Power of Transparency and Kindness

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In a world where misunderstandings and misinterpretations abound, it is paramount that we strive to be our authentic selves, embracing a lifestyle of transparency and kindness. While it can be disheartening to discover that our words or intentions have been twisted against us, we must rise above the negativity and continue to lead with compassion and integrity. Today, we explore the transformative power of transparency, building bridges with adversaries, and the unwavering strength found in acts of kindness.

1. Embracing Transparency: Building Bridges, Fostering Trust:

Transparency acts as a beacon of light, drawing others closer and building bridges where division once stood. By choosing honesty, we eliminate the shadow of doubt and confusion, allowing authentic connections and relationships to flourish. The act of transparent communication opens the door to understanding, empathy, and a deeper appreciation for the complexity of human experiences.

2. Unveiling the Power of Kindness:

In a world overwhelmed by injustice and cruelty, kindness is the silent revolution that has the power to transform lives. Regardless of how our actions may be perceived, leading with kindness is a testament to our compassion and unconditional love for our fellow humans. It is an act of resistance against the negativity that surrounds us, reminding us all that we have the capacity to make a positive impact, no matter how small.

3. Embracing Vulnerability: The Courage to Be Authentic:

When faced with adversity, it is easy to hide behind a façade of strength and resilience. However, true courage lies in embracing vulnerability and allowing ourselves to be seen, flaws and all. By willingly revealing our authentic selves, we create spaces for genuine connections, empathy, and understanding. In vulnerability, we find strength, and in authenticity, we inspire others to do the same.

4. Rising Above Misinterpretations: Our Actions Speak Louder:

Despite our best efforts, our words and intentions may sometimes be misconstrued or twisted against us. In such moments, it is crucial to stay true to ourselves, not allowing the opinions of others to define our character. By consistently acting with integrity, compassion, and transparency, we establish a solid foundation of authenticity that no amount of misperception can erode.

5. Leading by Example: Inspiring Positive Change:

By embracing transparency and kindness, we become beacons of hope and inspiration for those around us. Our actions have an undeniable ripple effect, creating a domino effect of positive change. When we act with integrity, communicate with honesty, and extend kindness to all, we ignite a flame within others to do the same, fostering a collective transformation in our communities, workplaces, and beyond.

Conclusion:

In a world that often thrives on misperception and judgment, our commitment to transparency and kindness becomes an unwavering testament to our character. By embracing vulnerability, leading with authenticity, and staying true to our values, we have the power to dismantle walls of misunderstanding and build bridges of connection. So, dear reader, let us rise above the misinterpretations, embracing the transformative power of transparency and kindness, and inspire a world where love and empathy prevail.