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Inspiration, The Children

A Journey of Love and Resilience: Embracing the Firsts

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

Today, I want to share with you the incredible and heartwarming journey I have embarked upon, as I find myself raising three beautiful children who have experienced the profound loss of their parents. In this blog, I hope to convey the resilience and strength of these incredible young souls, while also inviting you to join me in becoming their cheerleaders on this path of discovery and growth. Together, let us celebrate the power of love, hope, and the beauty found within the firsts.

A Surprising Resilience:

At first, I expected life to be filled with challenges and uncertainties as I stepped into this role. However, the truth revealed itself to me in the most unexpected ways. Children are remarkably resilient, capable of adapting and embracing life with an incredible zest. Despite the hardships they have faced, their spirit shines through, teaching me invaluable lessons about resilience and joy.

Embracing the Firsts:

In the months to come, I am thrilled to introduce you to each child’s unique personality, and allow you to witness the beauty of their journey through the firsts – those precious and transformative moments that shape their lives. From their first steps to their first day of school, we will explore how these milestones become small victories, reminding us of the strength and perseverance that reside within each child.

Trials and Joy Unveiled:

Life’s trials and moments of pure joy often arise unannounced, and for these children, such experiences bubble up without permission. Through their stories, we will delve into the unpredictable nature of life and celebrate the resilience that empowers them to face new challenges head-on, with a remarkable sense of curiosity and wonder.

Falling in Love with these Hearts:

As I have journeyed alongside these children, I have come to fall deeply in love with their spirits. Their innocence, their laughter, and their endless capacity for love have captivated my heart. I invite you to join me in sharing this same affection for them – to become their cheerleaders and advocates, providing them with the unwavering support and encouragement that every child deserves.

Becoming Their Parent:

In this newfound role, I wholeheartedly embrace the responsibility of being their parent. I promise to love them with the same fierce devotion that I would my own children. Their happiness, well-being, and growth are my utmost priorities, and I am committed to providing them with the guidance, nurturing, and boundaries they need to thrive.

Conclusion:

Dear reader,

The journey of raising these three wonderful children has taught me invaluable lessons about resilience, hope, and the immense ability of the human spirit to persevere. Together, let us celebrate life’s firsts and cheer on these incredible souls. May this be a reminder that love and support can transform lives, and that each child’s story is worth sharing and celebrating.

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

With heartfelt gratitude,

Reba

Inspiration

Nurturing Healthy Relationships: Understanding the Roles of Men in Your Life

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Love, a powerful force that binds us all, often leads us on a quest to find a partner who complements our values, ambitions, and dreams. However, guiding our loved ones in their journey can be challenging, especially when it comes to advising our daughters on what to look for in a partner. In this blog, we will explore the importance of understanding the roles men play in our lives, both as friends and potential life partners, aiming to provide valuable insights that will empower women to make informed choices.

The Unfailing Wisdom of Proverbs:

The wisdom shared in Proverbs reveals that there are certain behaviors that the Lord condemns, shedding light on the qualities that we should be cautious about in our relationships. By being aware of these negative traits, both men and women can navigate their connections with a discerning eye, seeking qualities that build a foundation of trust, respect, and love.

Understanding Friendship with Men:

Before delving into romantic partnerships, it is crucial to recognize the significance of cultivating healthy friendships with men. These friendships offer unique perspectives, emotional support, and companionship. By seeking friendships based on shared values and mutual respect, women can develop an understanding of the desirable qualities that should be present in any relationship.

The Roles of Men and Women in Relationships:

To develop strong and harmonious relationships, it is essential to comprehend the roles that both men and women play. Challenging traditional gender norms, modern relationships thrive when there is a balance that respects individuality, fosters communication, and promotes shared responsibilities. By embracing equality, couples can build a partnership based on trust, love, and mutual growth.

Seeking a Life Partner:

When considering a life partner, women often yearn for qualities that ensure a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Kindness, integrity, respect, and emotional support are foundational attributes to seek in a potential partner. Furthermore, alignment of life goals and aspirations, coupled with effective communication, are vital for long-term happiness and growth within a relationship.

Empowering Choices and Prioritizing Personal Values:

In the pursuit of love and companionship, it is paramount for women to prioritize their own beliefs, values, and well-being. By staying true to oneself and setting healthy boundaries, women can navigate relationships with confidence and make choices that align with their long-term happiness and personal growth.

Conclusion:

The quest for a healthy and fulfilling relationship is an inherent desire many women share. By understanding the qualities to value in both friendships and romantic partnerships, women can embark on this journey with clarity, embracing the roles that men play in their lives. Empowered with this knowledge, women can make choices that nurture their own well-being while forging connections built on love, trust, and shared values.

Ultimately, finding a partner who supports, uplifts, and cherishes you is an invaluable gift that can enhance your life in unimaginable ways. So, dear readers, embrace the wisdom shared here, trust your instincts, and remember that you deserve nothing less than a love that complements and inspires the amazing person you are.

Inspiration

Finding Happiness Through Gratitude: A Journey of Self-Reflection

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In our pursuit of happiness, we often find ourselves grappling with negativity and allowing the actions of others to affect our emotions. As women, our roles as mothers, wives, and colleagues bring forth a myriad of experiences – both joyful and painful. In this blog, we will explore the power of gratitude as a means to unlock happiness, encourage self-reflection, and find fulfillment amidst life’s challenges. Together, let us embark on a journey of introspection, seeking inspiration and discovering the immense potential that lies within.

1. The Quest for Positivity:

We live in a world where it is easy to focus on the negative aspects rather than appreciating the positive ones. However, the phrase “the only way to be happy is to be thankful” holds profound wisdom. By consciously shifting our perspective towards gratitude, we can begin to cultivate a mindset that leans towards positivity. Acknowledging the challenges we face while seeking the blessings within them enables us to find joy even in the midst of difficult circumstances.

2. Overcoming Emotional Dependency:

As women, we are often prone to allowing the actions of others to dictate our emotions. However, in our pursuit of happiness, it is essential to recognize that we have the power to control our own emotional well-being. By acknowledging the external influences that impact us and consciously setting boundaries, we reclaim the authority to shape our own happiness. Remember, our emotions should not be controlled by others; they are narratives we can write ourselves.

3. The Beauty of Introspection:

An abundant life filled with various roles brings with it the responsibility of introspection. By taking the time to reflect on our experiences, both painful and joyful, we gain invaluable insights and wisdom. Every challenge we face, every moment of joy we embrace, is an opportunity to grow and learn. Embracing the “University of Life” allows us to graduate with a deeper understanding of ourselves, our relationships, and our resilience.

4. The Strength in Vulnerability:

To truly experience happiness, it is crucial to acknowledge our vulnerabilities and embrace them with empathy and self-compassion. We must recognize that imperfections are part of the human condition, and they do not diminish our worth or capacity for happiness. By embracing vulnerability, we create a space for authenticity, deep connections, and personal growth.

Conclusion:

In our journey towards happiness, gratitude becomes the compass that guides us. By cultivating a mindset of positivity, learning to detach our emotions from external influences, engaging in introspection, and embracing vulnerability, we unlock the potential to find fulfillment and joy. As women, we possess an incredible capacity to shape our own happiness and inspire others along the way. Let us embark on this path of self-discovery, constantly reminding ourselves that we have the power within to uncover the beauty that lies in gratitude.

Inspiration

Celebrating Fatherhood: A Wife and Daughter’s Perspective on Father’s Day

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Father’s Day is a special occasion when we honor and appreciate the fathers in our lives for their love, guidance, and support. However, not everyone has had the privilege of experiencing a strong paternal presence. In this heartfelt blog, we explore Father’s Day from the unique perspectives of a wife and daughter, both of whom have navigated their journeys without the constant presence of a father figure. Join us as we delve into the significance of fatherhood and the meaningful roles they play in our lives.

Growing Up Without a Father Figure:

From an early age, I realized that my father was absent from many important milestones in my life. However, I was fortunate to have a strong and resilient mother who single-handedly assumed the role of both a mother and a father. Her unwavering love and dedication ensured that I never felt lacking in paternal guidance. As I grew older and got married, I began to understand the profound impact a father has not only on his daughter but also on the dynamics of a family.

The Impact of Fatherhood:

Fatherhood is a multifaceted journey that extends far beyond biology. A loving and involved father can provide a sense of stability, security, and guidance that shapes a child’s worldview. As a wife, I’ve witnessed firsthand the positive influence my partner has had on our daughter’s growth and development. Through his presence, he instills confidence, teaches valuable life skills, and encourages her to embrace her independence. Every choice he makes as a father helps mold her into the strong, compassionate, and resilient young woman she is becoming.

The Importance of a Father’s Role in a Daughter’s Life:

During a daughter’s teenage years, the role of a father becomes even more crucial. It is a delicate balance between protecting her innocence and empowering her to make her own choices. Without the presence of a father, it can be challenging to navigate the complexities of adolescence and establish healthy boundaries. Yet, through open communication, unconditional love, and active involvement, a father can bridge the gap and offer invaluable guidance that helps shape the choices their teenage daughters make.

Honoring Fatherhood:

Father’s Day is an opportunity to honor not only the biological fathers but also the individuals who have stepped up to fill that role in our lives. Whether it be a nurturing stepfather, a beloved uncle, a supportive mentor, or even a strong female figure who played both parental roles, it is important to recognize and express gratitude for their impact. We celebrate the individuals who have embraced the responsibilities and joys of fatherhood, contributing to the growth and well-being of the ones they love.

Conclusion:

While my personal experience with fatherhood may have been different, it has instilled in me a deep appreciation for those who embody the qualities of a loving and involved father. On this Father’s Day, let us acknowledge the significance of paternal presence in our lives, honoring the sacrifices, guidance, and love that fathers provide. Whether it is through blood relations, chosen family, or influential mentors, we recognize and express our gratitude for the paternal figures who have left an indelible mark on our hearts and souls.

Remember, Father’s Day is a time to celebrate the invaluable contributions fathers make, irrespective of their form, and an opportunity to reflect on the importance of their role in shaping our lives.

With love and gratitude.

Inspiration

Letter To My Graduating Daughter

Reba Nietert

Dearest Elizabeth;

Think of yourself as timeless, precious and priceless. Every day when you walk out of your home, remember that you’re treasured beyond anything you could possibly imagine. We’ve seen you blossom into an exquisite woman. There isn’t anything that you could ever do that would sacrifice the love we have for you. Since before you were born, you were wanted, you were blessed, and you were loved. Our love for you has only grown and strengthened through the years. We write this letter to you to go with your 2012 graduation yearbook as a reminder of the immense love that we have for you. On your graduation, your father and I wanted to offer some words of wisdom so that you might one day embrace it, and by learning from our mistakes, may you live your new independent life happily ever after…

Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school. It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it, and being careful where your mind leads will always keep you on the path you want for yourself. Education isn’t going to get you the job it’s going to prepare you to do the job. The rest will come from your tenacious ability to put yourself out there, to test your limits and to have enough courage to take action for your own future.

Faith is something you lose and something you have to fight to keep. God is real. He grants wishes and dreams in his time, not yours. He will refine you for his use not yours. He is merciful and gracious and even in loss and pain will carry you to finding new hope. Believe.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart. Do not follow where other’s paths may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path, and leave a trail of your own. Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. Be who you are, and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. Friends are lost easily so while creating your paths don’t alienate someone who might matter to you later in life. Always be graceful in your approach, never judge anyone unfairly and always stick up for people who cannot fight for themselves.

There are no shortcuts in life to any place worth going. You’re going to have to work hard and working is hard. There will be times when you’re lonely. Times you want to quit, but don’t because it is those moments which will become the memories of your past. Sometimes life happens when the worst comes our way but those are absolutely the moments that we remember most. Don’t block out the bad because you will end up blocking out all the good because you may not realize it but good is always around.

Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm. Your first priority should be to learn what your options are. To not rush into plans that could change until you’ve learned who you are and what you want to do. Don’t be in a rush to do it all and put so much pressure on yourself to be perfect. Live, forgive yourself for your mistakes and work on stuff about yourself that you want to improve. The difference you’ll find between high school and college is that adults take responsibility for themselves. Making a living is only a small part of it. Far more important is to take intellectual responsibility for yourself in a way that matters and will bring you happiness.

Lastly, if you find love hold on to it because love is not given freely by everyone. It’s a gift. It matters. Surround yourself with people who lift you up emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. Develop that balance and keep it simple sis. Sometimes too much knowledge can show you what you don’t have instead of being happy with what you do, so learn to be content with your choices.

I hope these words inspire you as that is my wish for writing them. There isn’t anyone who loves you more than your parents do. We wish for you all the joy that life has to offer. We will always be a phone call away…as long as we live, there for you whenever you need us. Go into your independent life with hope and courage and make it spectacular! Love ~ Mom and Dad

Inspiration

Unlocking True Happiness: Embracing Life’s Everyday Joys

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In a world where true happiness often feels like an elusive dream, moments of genuine joy bring a unique sense of fulfillment. It is these moments that remind us of the profound beauty and significance found in our everyday lives. Just like in the movie “Yours, Mine and Ours,” where Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda emphasize the connection between drudgery and big events, let us explore the idea that true happiness emerges from our ability to appreciate both the mundane and extraordinary. As I recently experienced, finding myself surrounded by incredible women, sharing heartfelt moments and infectious laughter, I came to realize that true happiness resides in the simplest of joys.

1. The Illusion of Constant Happiness:

Happiness is not an eternal state; it is an ever-changing emotion that ebbs and flows throughout our lives. Often, we expect happiness to be a constant presence, but this belief sets us up for disappointment. Understanding that happiness is a fleeting emotion allows us to appreciate those moments when it graces our lives, however brief they may be.

2. Finding Joy in the Ordinary:

In the pursuit of happiness, we often overlook the extraordinary beauty found in the mundane. It is in the everyday routines, the small acts of kindness, and the quiet moments that we encounter pure joy. Take a moment to appreciate the warmth of a sunrise, the laughter of loved ones, or the simple pleasure of a good book. By shifting our focus to the present, we can uncover happiness hidden in the ordinary.

3. Authentic Connections:

True happiness blossoms in the company of others who uplift and inspire us. Surrounding ourselves with supportive and genuine individuals creates an environment where joy can flourish. It is in the company of these incredible women that I realized the power of authentic connections – the ability to openly share, listen, and laugh uninhibitedly. These moments remind us of our shared humanity and reinforce the significance of genuine human connections.

4. Embracing Life’s Story:

Each of us carries a unique narrative, filled with challenges, triumphs, and compelling experiences. Sharing our stories fosters empathy and understanding, creating a space where joy can thrive. By embracing our own stories and listening to those of others without judgment, we expand our capacity for happiness. Remember, it is through vulnerability and openness that we forge genuine connections and find solace in shared experiences.

5. The Power of Laughter:

Laughter has an unmatched ability to heal the spirit and uplift the soul. Even in the face of adversity, finding humor in life’s trials can ignite genuine happiness. Whether it is shared inside jokes, witty banter, or lighthearted moments, laughter unites us and reminds us of the preciousness of the present.

Conclusion:

As we navigate the complexities of life, the search for happiness often leads us astray. Yet, by recognizing the extraordinary within the ordinary, fostering authentic connections, embracing our stories, and letting laughter guide our journey, we can unlock true happiness. Let us not forget that happiness, like everything beautiful, is fleeting. So, embrace those moments when it finds you, savor them, and carry their essence with you as you navigate both the mundane and extraordinary. Remember, true happiness dwells within you, waiting to be discovered. Embrace life’s everyday joys and let your smile be a reflection of the happiness that resides in your heart.

So, open yourself up to the wonders of life and allow yourself to be embraced by the simple, priceless moments that bring you infinite joy.