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Inspiration

Worthy of Love, by Jacob Nightingale

Reba Nietert

“We instinctually measure our self-worth based on our perceived value to the tribe that surrounds us, and unfortunately, I am a rocket scientist on a football team.” 

Find your Tribe, and there you will discover your value. Find your willingness, and there you will decide your worth. 

We were all innocent once. A child; vulnerable and uncertain. We struggled to make sense of the world. Nothing was certain except for our undying love and devotion to those we valued. We gave our trust freely to those we loved, without reservation. We would do anything to please them, and give anything to see them happy. There is no greater devotion than the love of a child and every child wants to believe they are loved equally in return. A child is always seeking feedback and reassurance, because they want to know one thing—if they too, are worthy of love. Our body may have grown and our spirit has matured, but that child still wants to know, “am I worthy to be loved?”

Worthiness is measured, not by how much you are loved, or by how much love you have been given. Worthiness is measured by how much love and devotion you are willing to give.

A child is born willing to give ALL their love and devotion; no one is more worthy of love than a child.

Like all children, we’re all pure potential. Our Will is the very essence of our potential and we are free to create ourselves however we choose. Is there a such thing as worthless potential? 

No one is worthless; we are all a work in progress, and our progress, our worth, is based solely on our willingness to learn, grow, and improve.  

While we can measure our “value” based on our past contributions and accomplishments, it’s solely based on another’s appreciation and value for what we gave. However, our worthiness, is only effectively measured by our willingness to give, and whether we did the best we could with what we had.

Are you worthy of being a friend, parent, leader, partner, spouse, doctor, student, artist, author…?

Love is the devotion to creating value, contributing, supporting, actualizing dreams, and nurturing growth, improvement, creation, and connection. If your worthiness is based on your willingness to give love and devotion, you need only to ask, “How much love and devotion am I willing to give?” This is your worthiness.    

Are you worthy of Leading? 

How much are you willing to give those that choose to follow you; to nurture, inspire, guide and support their growth and improvement?

Are you worthy of being a parent?

How much are you willing to give your child love and devotion; to support their development, to offer comfort and safety, and to nurture their growth?

Are you worthy of being a friend or romantic partner?

How much are you willing to give love and devotion to the relationship, to nurture each other’s growth and aspirations? 

Are you worthy of creating success?

How much are you willing to give to reach your objectives?

Are you worthy of love and devotion from another?

How much love and devotion are you willing to give?

While we cannot state another’s worth, we can decide if it’s “worth it” to give. When you give to someone, you are investing a part of yourself to them, and for someone to be worth it, they must be willing to accept and willing to invest. If someone is unwilling to give, how can they be worthy of what we are giving? If they are unwilling to grow and improve or to contribute and nurture growth, how can they be worthy of our support and contribution? If someone is unwilling to give love and devotion, is it worth it to give them ours? We cannot allow ourselves to give to those that are unwilling, and if we are unwilling, we are not worthy of what others are willing to give. 

It’s amazing how this simple shift in perception can change everything; it can break down the chains of self-doubt, worry, and insecurity. You don’t need to ask whether someone else finds you worthy. You can measure your own worthiness and the worthiness of those you keep in your life. If you are willing to give love, you’re worthy to be loved, and you are worth every ounce of love you have in your heart. That small child can find peace and comfort, knowing that no matter how much they were cast aside, forgotten, or unfairly challenged, they always have been and always will be “worthy of love.”

Inspiration, Reflection

Prioritizing Self-Care: Letting Go of Selfishness and Embracing Personal Well-being

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

In our fast-paced and demanding world, prioritizing self-care often feels like an act of selfishness. However, it is crucial to recognize that self-care is not only essential but also empowering. Many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to put others’ needs before our own. In this blog, we will explore the importance of overcoming these societal expectations and embracing self-care as a means of nurturing our well-being and unleashing our true potential.

1. Challenging the Notion of Selfishness:

The notion that taking time for oneself is selfish stems from outdated societal expectations and gender roles. It’s essential to break free from these limiting beliefs and redefine self-care as an act of self-love rather than selfishness. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup – by taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to support and uplift those around you.

2. Unlearning Past Conditioning:

The era we grew up in may have instilled in us the belief that women should be selfless and always prioritize others. However, it is crucial to acknowledge that times have changed, and it is time to unlearn these limiting beliefs. Reflect on the strengths and talents you possess and consider how they align with your own desires and aspirations, rather than constantly deferring to others.

3. Recognizing the Importance of Self-Care:

Self-care is not a luxury; it is a fundamental necessity for maintaining physical, emotional, and mental well-being. It is about finding the balance between responsibilities and personal needs. By prioritizing self-care, you create space for relaxation, rejuvenation, and self-reflection, fostering personal growth and resilience.

4. Overcoming Guilt and Prioritizing Yourself:

Guilt often sneaks in when we put our needs first. However, it is crucial to understand that self-care is not an indulgence but an investment in oneself. Remind yourself that you deserve to be cared for and prioritize your well-being without guilt or shame. Embrace the idea that taking care of yourself is a loving act that benefits everyone around you.

5. The Power of Boundaries and Saying No:

Establishing boundaries is vital in maintaining a healthy balance between self-care and obligations. Learning to say no when necessary allows you to protect your energy and allocate time and resources effectively. By setting clear boundaries, you communicate your needs and create a space for personal growth and self-fulfillment.

Conclusion:

It is time to redefine self-care and dismiss any notion that it is selfish. Prioritizing your well-being is an act of resilience and empowerment. By unlearning past conditioning, recognizing the importance of self-care, overcoming guilt, and setting healthy boundaries, you allow yourself to flourish and unlock your true potential. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish but a beautiful testament to your worth and the love you have for yourself and others.

Inspiration

The Liberating Power of Forgiveness: Unburdening Your Soul

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2015 – Rebecca Nietert

In the intricate dance of human relationships, we inevitably encounter hurt, betrayal, and pain inflicted upon us by others. In these moments, forgiveness may appear elusive and counterintuitive, but it is precisely during such times that embracing forgiveness becomes a transformative act of self-liberation. This blog delves into the profound impact of forgiveness, revealing the healing power it holds for our own well-being and personal growth.

1. The Hidden Cost of Unforgiveness:

When we hold onto resentment, bitterness, and hatred towards those who have wronged us, we inadvertently shackle ourselves to the past, preventing our own growth and self-discovery. This burden weighs heavily on our hearts, hindering us from fully experiencing love, joy, and inner peace. By recognizing the true cost of holding onto un-forgiveness, we can begin to explore the path towards healing and release.

2. The Compassionate Act of Self-Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not just a gift we give to others; it is a priceless act of self-compassion. By extending forgiveness to ourselves, we acknowledge our imperfections and allow space for growth and transformation. Embracing self-forgiveness empowers us to let go of self-blame, guilt, and shame, paving the way for self-acceptance and inner harmony.

3. Recognizing the Fallibility of Others:

It is essential to understand that the person who hurt us may not even be aware of the pain they have caused or have already found their own peace. Holding onto resentment only perpetuates our own suffering, while the one who wronged us may have moved on. By recognizing the fallibility of others, we can shift our focus towards our own healing and growth.

4. The Healing Journey of Confrontation:

Confronting those who have hurt us can be a powerful step in the forgiveness process. Through open and honest communication, we can gain clarity, understanding, and even find our own truth amidst the complex dynamics of conflict. Meeting somewhere in the middle, we can foster respect for both sides and pave the way for reconciliation and healing.

5. Embracing Forgiveness for Liberated Living:

As we embark on the journey of forgiveness, we liberate ourselves from the chains of resentment and pain. We reclaim our power and create space for joy, love, and personal growth. Forgiveness allows us to shed our emotional baggage and step into a future filled with possibilities and authentic happiness.

Conclusion:

Dear reader, forgiveness is not an act of weakness or an indulgence of the perpetrator. Instead, it is an act of self-empowerment, compassion, and liberation. By releasing the weight of grudges and resentments, we create space for healing and personal transformation. As you navigate the complex terrain of forgiveness, may you find solace, courage, and the strength to unburden your soul and embrace a future filled with love, joy, and inner peace.

Remember, forgiveness is a gift you give yourself—a choice to reclaim your happiness and rewrite the narrative of your own life. Let go, release, and discover the profound freedom that forgiveness offers.

Stay tuned for upcoming blog posts that explore further nuances of forgiveness and provide practical guidance on nurturing a forgiving heart.

Inspiration

Harnessing Retrospection: Unveiling the Power of Reflection

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2015 – Rebecca Nietert

As we reach a certain age, reflecting on our lives and the milestones we’ve achieved becomes a remarkable pleasure. Memories, both fulfilled and unfulfilled, parade through our minds, seeking space in the narratives we construct. The key to unlocking these memories lies in engaging with those who knew us during pivotal moments. It’s like walking through a video of a past we’ve long forgotten, accompanied by the rhythm of music. With the freedom to turn this retrospective lens on and off, we can use it as a powerful tool to shape our present and future.

1. The Nostalgic Journey: Uncovering the Truths of the Past:

Listening to stories and anecdotes from friends, colleagues, and family members who were there during significant moments can rekindle memories and unveil hidden truths about our past. By immersing ourselves in these conversations, we embark on a nostalgic journey that offers both validation and new perspectives, allowing us to better understand ourselves as we truly were.

2. The Power of Embracing Vulnerability:

Feeling self-conscious about our memories is natural, as it exposes our vulnerabilities and imperfections. However, recognizing that the past is behind us empowers us to embrace these memories without judgment. By summoning the courage to confront our past and accept it as a part of who we are, we pave the way for growth, self-acceptance, and personal transformation.

3. Dancing Through Time: The Addictive Nature of Retrospection:

For some of us, the act of revisiting the past is akin to dancing through time. It becomes an addictive pursuit, propelling us to shape our behaviors and actions in alignment with the person we strive to become. Embracing the influence of retrospection allows us to tap into the wisdom gleaned from our experiences, ensuring that our present choices are enriched by the lessons of the past.

4. Creating an Inspired Legacy:

One of the driving forces behind many individuals’ retrospection is the desire to leave a meaningful legacy. Whether it’s aspiring to be remembered as kind-hearted or seeking entry into a higher realm, reflecting on our lives helps guide our actions and impact others positively. The blog explores the concept of creating a lasting impact and encourages readers to identify the core values that they want their legacy to embody.

Conclusion:

Retrospection, when approached with curiosity and self-compassion, unveils the power of our past experiences. By engaging with those who witnessed our journey, embracing vulnerability, and leveraging the wisdom gained, we pave the way for personal growth, self-acceptance, and inspired actions in the present. Reflecting on our lives becomes an exhilarating dance through time, guiding us towards creating a legacy that aligns with our values. Embrace retrospection as a transformative tool, shaping your path towards becoming the person you aspire to be and leaving a positive impact on the world.

Inspiration

Navigating Empathy and Personal Growth in Times of Pain

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

There are moments in life when we find ourselves deeply immersed in the pain of others, feeling their anguish with an understanding that it is not our own. It is during these times that self-reflection becomes crucial, as we evaluate our own behavior and strive to become the person we believe we are meant to be. However, the path to personal growth is not without its challenges, and the overwhelming presence of empathy can sometimes cloud our judgment. In this blog, we delve into the complexities of empathy and self-perspective, exploring the struggle to maintain personal integrity when faced with intense emotions.

The Burden of Empathy:

Empathy is a remarkable gift that allows us to connect with others on a profound level. It enables us to share in their joys and sorrows, bridging the gap between our experiences and theirs. However, when we constantly shoulder the pain of others, it becomes a heavy burden to bear. Feeling the empathy deeply, as though it cuts through our hearts like a jagged knife, can take a toll on our emotional well-being. Balancing the desire to help and support others while also caring for ourselves requires a delicate equilibrium.

The Journey of Self-Reflection:

Working on personal growth and self-improvement is a lifelong journey that demands constant evaluation of our thoughts, actions, and beliefs. It involves aligning ourselves with our sense of right and wrong, even when it feels like we have no other choice. However, this journey is not without its obstacles, and self-perspective becomes more challenging when confronted with intense pain. It is crucial to acknowledge our limitations and seek clarity in the face of overwhelming emotions.

The Power of Integrity:

Living a life of integrity means holding ourselves to the same standard of justice, fairness, and decency that we expect from others. It requires a commitment to personal growth and an unwavering dedication to upholding our core values. While this approach serves as a compass for navigating life’s complexities, it can be difficult to maintain when empathy consumes us. Balancing our own well-being while extending compassion to others becomes a delicate dance of self-care and altruism.

Navigating Moments of Struggle:

We all face periods of struggle, where various factors challenge our ability to maintain personal integrity. In the context of your novel not receiving the attention you believe it deserves, it’s natural to feel disheartened and frustrated. These moments can threaten to overshadow our personal growth, causing us to question our beliefs and lose sight of our path. However, it is essential to remind ourselves that setbacks do not define us, and our resilience lies in how we respond to adversity.

Seeking Healing and Growth:

In moments of pain and struggle, it is crucial to prioritize self-care and seek avenues for healing and growth. This may involve finding solace in our creative endeavors, seeking support from loved ones, or reaching out to professional resources. By nurturing ourselves, we can regain clarity and strength, allowing us to continue our journey of personal growth with renewed purpose and a deeper sense of empathy for others.

Conclusion:

Embracing empathy while navigating personal growth can be a challenging endeavor. We must learn to balance our desire to support others with the need to care for ourselves. By cultivating self-awareness and constantly evaluating our actions in alignment with our values, we can strive to become the best versions of ourselves. Through self-reflection, embracing vulnerability, and seeking healing, we create a space for empathy and personal growth to coexist harmoniously. Remember, your journey is ongoing, and your ability to empathize while staying true to your values is a testament to your character.

Inspiration

The Power of Forgiveness: Liberating Ourselves from Anger

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

In life, we often find ourselves entangled in the web of unresolved anger, judging others without seeking understanding or clarity. These situations may strike a chord within us, reminding us of our own journey towards forgiveness. In this blog, we delve into the transformative power of forgiveness, offering insights and guidance to our general readers. By embracing forgiveness, we can unburden ourselves from the shackles of anger and pave the way for healing and personal growth.

1. Reflecting on Our Own Judgments:

When we find ourselves entangled in anger or judgment, it is crucial to take a step back and reflect on our own shortcomings. Recognize that we, too, have been guilty of judging others without understanding their perspective. By humbling ourselves in this manner, we open our hearts to the possibility of extending forgiveness to those who have wronged us.

2. Understanding the Nature of Prickly People:

Prickly individuals, who often project a sense of overt seriousness and vulnerability, may draw our attention and provoke our anger. However, it is essential to remember that behind their behavior lies a facade of self-protection. These individuals have developed a survival mechanism that shields them from having to confront their own insecurities. Pause for a moment and acknowledge that, at one point, we may have played the same role in our own lives.

3. Cultivating Empathy and Compassion:

Forgiveness is rooted in empathy and compassion. Put yourself in the shoes of the person who has wounded you, seeking to understand their journey and the circumstances that shaped their behavior. Remember that everyone is fighting their own battles and that their actions might be a manifestation of their pain. By cultivating empathy, we plant seeds of forgiveness in our hearts.

4. The Liberation of Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. Liberating ourselves from the burden of anger and resentment allows us to reclaim our inner peace and emotional well-being. Understand that forgiving others does not condone their actions; rather, it frees us from the chains that tie us to the past. Embrace forgiveness as a transformative tool for personal growth and healing.

Conclusion:

The journey towards forgiveness is a profound and liberating one. As we reflect on our own judgments, understand the nature of prickly individuals, and cultivate empathy and compassion, we pave the way for forgiveness to manifest in our lives. By embracing forgiveness, we shed the weight of anger, freeing ourselves to live a life of peace and joy. Remember, forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves, allowing us to heal, grow, and embrace the transformative power of compassion. Start your journey of forgiveness today and embark on a path towards liberation and emotional well-being.

Inspiration

Cultivating Empathy: Walking a Mile in Someone Else’s Shoes

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

In our lives, we may sometimes forget to acknowledge the pain others go through when our own experiences have not been as intense. It is important, however, to recognize that pain exists and affects each individual differently. As someone who has faced immense burdens throughout life, I may have at times appeared dismissive or insensitive. But it is not because I haven’t experienced hardship; rather, it is because I am not currently walking in your shoes. In this blog, let us explore the significance of empathy, the importance of sharing burdens, and the power of understanding one another’s pain.

Acknowledging the Spectrum of Pain:

Pain is a deeply personal and subjective experience. While some individuals may perceive certain obstacles as mere hindrances, others may experience them as overwhelming burdens. We must understand that the measure of pain varies from person to person, and it is not our place to minimize someone else’s suffering. By acknowledging this spectrum of pain, we open ourselves to a path of empathy and connection.

Avoiding the Crustacean Retreat:

It is natural to be hesitant to delve into the pain of others, as it can remind us of our own struggles. However, it is important to recognize that empathy is a powerful force that can unite and uplift us. Rather than retreating like a crab, seeking our own comfort, we should make an effort to extend our hand of support to those hurting around us. By doing so, we foster a community built on compassion and understanding.

Embracing Empathy:

In the pursuit of true empathy, we must step out of our own experiences and actively listen to others. The loss of a loved one, unemployment, or any other life event may appear as obstacles that are easily overcome to some, but to others, they may be their biggest burdens. By fostering a mindset of empathy, we create space for individuals to share their stories, truly understand their pain, and offer solace and support.

A Call for Shared Burdens:

Sharing our own burdens is essential, but it is equally important to uplift others by shouldering a portion of their burden. By reaching out to those in need, we bridge the gap between our experiences, fostering a sense of unity and healing. We can lift each other up through acts of kindness, compassion, and understanding.

The Power of Empathetic Action:

Empathy becomes meaningful when it translates into action. Small gestures of support and empathy can make a profound impact on others’ lives. Together, we can create a supportive environment where everyone feels seen, heard, and understood. By proactively taking steps to walk in someone else’s shoes, we foster a culture of empathy that benefits both individuals and society as a whole.

Conclusion:

Empathy is not about pretending to fully comprehend another person’s pain. It is about recognizing the spectrum of pain, extending support, and trying to understand one another. Let us strive to cultivate empathy by embracing the burden of others and by actively listening and offering compassion. Together, we can create a world where empathy is valued, understood, and practiced.

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Harnessing the Power of Emotional Release: Navigating Anger with Grace

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Welcome, readers, to a profound exploration of the intricate nature of anger and its effect on our relationships. Often, when we find ourselves swept up in the tempest of emotions, our words and actions may unintentionally hurt those closest to us. Today, we embark on a journey towards understanding the true origins of our anger, as we learn to navigate its treacherous waters with empathy and grace.

Chapter 1: The Anatomy of Anger

Anger, a complex emotional response, often masks deeper unresolved issues within ourselves. Rather than merely reacting to a triggering event or another person’s actions, anger is frequently a manifestation of our internal frustrations. By delving into the roots of our anger, we can free ourselves from its grip and attain a greater sense of emotional well-being.

Chapter 2: Breaking the Gender Stereotypes

Societal expectations often dictate that men should avoid women’s anger at all costs, and in turn, women should suppress their anger. However, it is essential to understand that anger is a human emotion that transcends gender boundaries. By acknowledging this, we can challenge the stereotypes that hinder healthy communication and emotional release. Together, we can create space for each other to express anger constructively and work towards resolving our true internal struggles.

Chapter 3: The Dangers of Venting and Suppression

While it may be tempting to vent our anger or bottle it up inside, both approaches can lead to detrimental consequences. Unrestrained venting may cause unnecessary harm to our relationships, while suppressing anger can manifest in physical and emotional distress. It is vital to explore alternative avenues for releasing anger while promoting understanding, healing, and growth.

Chapter 4: Cultivating Emotional Awareness

Developing emotional awareness allows us to identify and understand the underlying causes of our anger. By honing our ability to differentiate between our internal frustrations and external triggers, we can respond to situations with greater clarity and compassion. Through mindfulness and self-reflection, we can create a safe emotional space where anger is acknowledged, examined, and transformed into a catalyst for personal growth.

Chapter 5: Constructive Expression and Healing

The key to navigating anger lies in fostering effective communication strategies and healthy outlets for emotional release. By practicing active listening techniques, expressing ourselves assertively yet empathetically, and creating space for others to do the same, we can cultivate harmonious relationships and facilitate healing. Embracing forgiveness and empathy, we can transform anger into an opportunity for mutual understanding and emotional growth.

Conclusion:

Dear readers, as we conclude this journey of understanding anger, may we embark upon a path of enlightened emotional awareness and transformative relationships. Let us remember that anger, though seemingly destructive, is an invitation to explore our own unresolved issues and promote healing. By taking responsibility for our emotions, embracing empathy, and fostering open communication, we can transcend societal constraints and create an environment of emotional liberation. Together, let us embark upon this empowering journey with grace, understanding, and the willingness to grow.