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Inspiration, Reflection

Prioritizing Self-Care: Letting Go of Selfishness and Embracing Personal Well-being

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

In our fast-paced and demanding world, prioritizing self-care often feels like an act of selfishness. However, it is crucial to recognize that self-care is not only essential but also empowering. Many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to put others’ needs before our own. In this blog, we will explore the importance of overcoming these societal expectations and embracing self-care as a means of nurturing our well-being and unleashing our true potential.

1. Challenging the Notion of Selfishness:

The notion that taking time for oneself is selfish stems from outdated societal expectations and gender roles. It’s essential to break free from these limiting beliefs and redefine self-care as an act of self-love rather than selfishness. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup – by taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to support and uplift those around you.

2. Unlearning Past Conditioning:

The era we grew up in may have instilled in us the belief that women should be selfless and always prioritize others. However, it is crucial to acknowledge that times have changed, and it is time to unlearn these limiting beliefs. Reflect on the strengths and talents you possess and consider how they align with your own desires and aspirations, rather than constantly deferring to others.

3. Recognizing the Importance of Self-Care:

Self-care is not a luxury; it is a fundamental necessity for maintaining physical, emotional, and mental well-being. It is about finding the balance between responsibilities and personal needs. By prioritizing self-care, you create space for relaxation, rejuvenation, and self-reflection, fostering personal growth and resilience.

4. Overcoming Guilt and Prioritizing Yourself:

Guilt often sneaks in when we put our needs first. However, it is crucial to understand that self-care is not an indulgence but an investment in oneself. Remind yourself that you deserve to be cared for and prioritize your well-being without guilt or shame. Embrace the idea that taking care of yourself is a loving act that benefits everyone around you.

5. The Power of Boundaries and Saying No:

Establishing boundaries is vital in maintaining a healthy balance between self-care and obligations. Learning to say no when necessary allows you to protect your energy and allocate time and resources effectively. By setting clear boundaries, you communicate your needs and create a space for personal growth and self-fulfillment.

Conclusion:

It is time to redefine self-care and dismiss any notion that it is selfish. Prioritizing your well-being is an act of resilience and empowerment. By unlearning past conditioning, recognizing the importance of self-care, overcoming guilt, and setting healthy boundaries, you allow yourself to flourish and unlock your true potential. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish but a beautiful testament to your worth and the love you have for yourself and others.

Inspiration, Reflection

Navigating Difficult Decisions: Embracing Vulnerability in Parenting

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

Parenting is an incredible journey filled with both moments of joy and tough decisions. As a guardian, I find myself at a crossroads, torn between the desire for positive change and the fear of uprooting my children from their familiar school system. In this heartfelt blog, I invite you into my world as I grapple with mixed emotions, seek understanding, and reflect on the power of vulnerability in parenting.

The Weight of Decision-Making:

The choice to relocate my children to a school system outside of their current one has become a source of deep contemplation. For months, my daughters have yearned for a fresh start, craving an environment where they can freely redefine themselves without the shadow of their past experiences. As a parent, this decision has weighed heavily on my heart, constantly torturing me with conflicting thoughts and emotions.

The Desire for Connection:

Within their current school system, their mom, Jen, has built a supportive community of amazing moms with whom I longed to form closer connections. Yet, amidst the chaos of life, I found myself unable to fully engage and missed out on opportunities to cultivate deeper friendships. The judgment and opinions of others further added to this feeling of distance, making me question the choices I’ve made for my children.

Living Under a Microscope:

The scrutiny surrounding my parenting choices creates an added layer of complexity. With one gifted child and two with special needs, each requiring unique attention and care, I am constantly placed under a microscope by those around me. Additionally, local family drama has further complicated the dynamics, leaving me emotionally and mentally drained as a guardian.

Embracing Vulnerability:

In moments like these, vulnerability becomes a lifeline, allowing us to embrace our truest selves and seek empathy from others. While well-meaning individuals may suggest turning to God for a fix-all solution, my role as a parent transcends simplistic answers. Teaching my children about the story of Jesus is important, but it does not absolve me from the challenges and decisions I must face on their behalf.

Finding Strength and Support:

Navigating the complexities of parenting, especially when faced with difficult decisions, requires a deep well of strength. By acknowledging our vulnerabilities, we open ourselves to supportive relationships that can help ease our burdens. While I may not have all the answers, I am learning to lean on a network of understanding individuals who lend an ear, offer guidance, and validate the complexity of my journey.

Conclusion:

As a parent, I am acutely aware of the profound impact our decisions have on our children’s lives. In the midst of difficult choices, embracing vulnerability becomes a catalyst for growth, empathy, and connection. By acknowledging our fears, seeking understanding, and opening ourselves to supportive relationships, we can navigate the challenges of parenting with resilience and compassion. Together, let us embrace vulnerability and find solace in the collective experiences we share as parents.

The Children

Embracing the Broken: A Journey of Love and Healing

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

Three years ago, when I was asked if I would love them like they’re my own, I had no idea of the magnitude of that commitment. I simply wanted to be part of the village that could help raise these kids. Little did I know that they had come to me carrying the weight of brokenness, longing for the love and stability they had been deprived of. In this heartfelt blog, I will recount the challenges and rewards of taking on the responsibility of nurturing children who had known little but instability and uncertainty.

A Broken Foundation:

The absence of constant parental attention had left deep wounds on these children’s hearts. They struggled academically, their behavior exhibited signs of their pain, and they found solace in sucking the life out of every fleeting moment, believing that all people who enter our lives eventually leave. It was clear that they craved something more, something stable and lasting.

The Power of Unconditional Love:

Amidst their brokenness, it became evident that their parents had loved them dearly. It was this foundation of love that provided a glimpse of the good within them, buried beneath layers of insecurity and doubt. With unconditional love as the guiding principle, I embarked on a journey to create a nurturing environment where they could heal and grow into their true potential.

Embracing the Role of Authority:

For these children to find stability, a balance needed to be found between love and discipline. As the authority figure in their lives, it was my responsibility to set boundaries, establish routines, and teach them important life skills. This delicate balance allowed them to feel secure while also instilling a sense of accountability and self-respect.

A Village Built on Support:

Recognizing the enormity of the task at hand, it became clear that it takes more than one person to mend the broken pieces. Creating a village of support became imperative. Seeking guidance from therapists, educators, and other caregivers enriched their experience, allowing them to blossom under a community committed to their well-being.

Finding Healing and Growth:

Over time, as these children felt the unwavering commitment of love surrounding them, they began to heal. Their academic performance improved, their behavior stabilized, and a newfound sense of belonging emerged. It was within this safe space that they started to believe in the possibility of lasting relationships and a future filled with unconditional love.

Conclusion:

Taking on the responsibility of nurturing broken children is not for the faint of heart. It requires immense love, dedication, and a deep understanding of the lasting impact that stability and unwavering support can have on their lives. By creating an environment rooted in love and embracing the role of authority, we can offer broken children a chance to heal, grow, and rewrite their narratives.

We must remember that the strength of the village lies in its ability to provide a safe and nurturing space, a place where brokenness can be mended and hearts can find solace. May we all be inspired to open our arms wide and embrace those in need, helping them rediscover the beauty and resilience within themselves.

Inspiration

The Profound Influence of Kindness: A Journey of Faith Restored

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2016 – Rebecca Nietert

Have you ever experienced a moment so powerful that it brought tears to your eyes, leaving you in awe of life’s blessings? Today, dear readers, I found myself in such a moment, overwhelmed by an immense feeling of gratefulness and humility. In this blog, I want to share with you the transformative power of kindness and the profound impact it has had on my outlook towards faith in humanity.

Finding Solace in Act of Kindness:

At times, life’s challenges can cloud our faith in the goodness of others. Disappointment, pain, and selfishness can leave us feeling jaded and questioning the basic human nature. Yet, in that moment of tears and vulnerability, I was touched by an act of kindness that rekindled my belief. The genuine love and compassion shown to me transcended words and filled my heart with warmth, reminding me that kindness is still very much alive in this world.

Reflecting on A Year of Incredible Women:

As the tears streamed down my face, I could not help but reflect on the past year and the remarkable women who have crossed my path. Their acts of kindness, both big and small, have made a profound impact on my life. Their willingness to extend a helping hand, offer words of encouragement, or simply lend an empathetic ear has been a testament to the power of human connection. These women have restored my faith in the strength and kindness that resides within us all.

Learning to Believe in the Power of Kindness:

Throughout my journey, I have faced unimaginable hardships that have tested my belief in the kindness of others. The scars left behind by past disappointments made it challenging to trust again. However, the recent outpouring of kindness has opened my eyes to the truth that there are more kind-hearted souls in this world than not. Through their actions, they serve as beacons of hope, reminding us of the transformative power of even the smallest acts of kindness.

Embracing the Challenge:

For me, learning to believe in the kindness of others has been a personal challenge. Yet, it is a challenge worth embracing. As I witness the selflessness and compassion displayed by others, I am reminded that true strength lies in our ability to open our hearts to the possibility of kindness, both in giving and receiving. It is an act of vulnerability and trust, but one that has the power to change lives.

Conclusion:

Today, as tears flowed down my cheeks, I surrendered myself to the overwhelming feeling of gratitude for the kindness that surrounds me. This heartfelt journey has reaffirmed my faith in the inherent goodness of humanity and reignited my hope for a brighter future. Let us all embrace the challenge of believing in kindness, for it is through our collective acts of compassion that we can create a world where love and understanding prevail. Remember, dear readers, the power of kindness lies within each one of us – let us use it to make a difference.

Inspiration

God in Motion – A Heartfelt Thank You!

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2016 – Rebecca Nietert

Jennifer and I have been inseparable for over two decades. We’ve laughed, cried, and shared countless memories together. But when she fell ill five years ago, it felt like our world shattered.

Doctors were baffled by her condition, running test after test, only to come up empty-handed. They knew something was wrong, but the elusive carcinoma remained hidden. It was a frustrating and agonizing period for Jennifer, who wanted nothing more than answers and relief from her suffering.

Then, two years later, the pain in her abdomen became unbearable. That’s when we received the earth-shattering news – liver cancer. The doctors suspected it had metastasized from another form of cancer, leading them to pose a simple question: “Have you ever had a mammogram?” Jennifer’s reply was heartbreaking – “No.” They had never thought to ask for that test.

In that heartbreaking moment, Jennifer received a sobering diagnosis. Stage four breast, pelvic, and liver metastasized cancers. Our family was devastated, unsure of what the future held for our beloved sister and friend.

But then came Dr. Trumbly, a beacon of hope amidst the turmoil. He looked into Jennifer’s eyes and promised to do everything in his power to ensure she had a fighting chance at a long and fulfilling life. And true to his word, he has gone above and beyond, exploring the latest treatments and advancements in cancer care.

Jennifer fought valiantly, conquering the battle twice, proving that she was a force to be reckoned with. Dr. Trumbly stood by her side every step of the way, providing unwavering support and delivering the newest treatments with unwavering dedication.

Yet, despite their efforts and Jennifer’s incredible resilience, she finds herself facing adversity once again. It’s a blow that has left us all reeling, uncertain of what lies ahead. But we refuse to give up hope, knowing that Jennifer’s tenacity and Dr. Trumbly’s expertise may yet prevail.

This is not just a story of illness, but a testament to the power of friendship, love, and the unwavering determination of a doctor who refuses to surrender. Jennifer’s journey is a reminder to us all that even in the darkest of times, there is always a flicker of hope.

So, as I sit here, penning this heartfelt account, I want to urge you to cherish every moment with those you hold dear. Embrace the joy, the laughter, and the love that surrounds you. And remember, there are heroes out there like Dr. Trumbly, warriors like Jennifer, who continue to defy the odds and inspire us all.

Together, let us lend our support, raise awareness, and stand united in the fight against cancer. Because if there’s one thing we’ve learned from Jennifer’s journey, it’s that there is strength in love and hope, and miracles can happen when we least expect them.

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Embracing Vulnerability: Rediscovering Our Emotional Depth

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2015 – Rebecca Nietert

Dear readers, today we embark on a personal introspection, exploring the depths of our emotions and the power of vulnerability. It is through self-reflection and understanding that we can reconnect with the rawness of our experiences and nurture a more fulfilling emotional journey. Join me as we delve into the complexities of our past, embrace vulnerability, and rediscover the girl or young woman we may have lost along the way.

Unveiling Layers of Transparency:

In this journey we call life, we often pride ourselves on being transparent and open about our experiences, choices, and circumstances. We share our stories with others, hoping to inspire and connect. However, there are times when others perceive our words as shallow or even unbelievable. It is in those moments that we must pause and reflect on our own emotional depth.

The Survivor Within:

Many of us have lived through challenging circumstances, and we wear our experiences as badges of survival. We have become tough, resilient, and fiercely determined individuals. But somewhere beneath that strength lies the girl or young woman who initially felt every moment of pain. Have we learned to forgive to the point where emotional attachment to the past dissipates? Or have we unintentionally created a protective shield, burying our emotions deep within?

Exploring Emotional Attachment:

For some, the absence of emotional attachment to painful experiences may indeed be a form of healing and growth. It could represent an evolved state of forgiveness and a release from the burden of the past. However, it’s crucial to examine the possibility of suppressing emotions as a result of trauma, leading to a form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). By acknowledging our coping mechanisms, we can begin the journey towards reclaiming emotional depth.

Embracing Vulnerability:

True emotional growth lies in our ability to embrace vulnerability and acknowledge the wounds we once carried. It requires a willingness to peel back the layers of toughness and reconnect with our most authentic selves. By doing so, we can reawaken the emotions that were once buried, allowing ourselves to process, heal, and move forward towards a more profound sense of wholeness.

The Path Forward:

As we venture forward on this journey of self-discovery, it is essential to surround ourselves with a supportive community. Seeking guidance from trusted friends, family, or professionals can provide the necessary encouragement to delve into our emotions and help us navigate through any buried pain. By actively engaging in self-reflection, practicing self-compassion, and embracing vulnerability, we can gradually rediscover the emotional depth we may have lost.

Conclusion:

When we reflect on our past and the emotional journey that brought us to where we are today, it is important to honor both our resilience and vulnerability. Let us remember that emotional growth is not linear, and healing takes time. By acknowledging and exploring our emotions, we can rediscover the girl or young woman whose pain may have been overshadowed by strength. Together, let us embrace vulnerability as a powerful tool for personal growth, nurturing a more profound emotional connection with ourselves and those around us.

Inspiration

The Liberating Power of Forgiveness: Unburdening Your Soul

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2015 – Rebecca Nietert

In the intricate dance of human relationships, we inevitably encounter hurt, betrayal, and pain inflicted upon us by others. In these moments, forgiveness may appear elusive and counterintuitive, but it is precisely during such times that embracing forgiveness becomes a transformative act of self-liberation. This blog delves into the profound impact of forgiveness, revealing the healing power it holds for our own well-being and personal growth.

1. The Hidden Cost of Unforgiveness:

When we hold onto resentment, bitterness, and hatred towards those who have wronged us, we inadvertently shackle ourselves to the past, preventing our own growth and self-discovery. This burden weighs heavily on our hearts, hindering us from fully experiencing love, joy, and inner peace. By recognizing the true cost of holding onto un-forgiveness, we can begin to explore the path towards healing and release.

2. The Compassionate Act of Self-Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not just a gift we give to others; it is a priceless act of self-compassion. By extending forgiveness to ourselves, we acknowledge our imperfections and allow space for growth and transformation. Embracing self-forgiveness empowers us to let go of self-blame, guilt, and shame, paving the way for self-acceptance and inner harmony.

3. Recognizing the Fallibility of Others:

It is essential to understand that the person who hurt us may not even be aware of the pain they have caused or have already found their own peace. Holding onto resentment only perpetuates our own suffering, while the one who wronged us may have moved on. By recognizing the fallibility of others, we can shift our focus towards our own healing and growth.

4. The Healing Journey of Confrontation:

Confronting those who have hurt us can be a powerful step in the forgiveness process. Through open and honest communication, we can gain clarity, understanding, and even find our own truth amidst the complex dynamics of conflict. Meeting somewhere in the middle, we can foster respect for both sides and pave the way for reconciliation and healing.

5. Embracing Forgiveness for Liberated Living:

As we embark on the journey of forgiveness, we liberate ourselves from the chains of resentment and pain. We reclaim our power and create space for joy, love, and personal growth. Forgiveness allows us to shed our emotional baggage and step into a future filled with possibilities and authentic happiness.

Conclusion:

Dear reader, forgiveness is not an act of weakness or an indulgence of the perpetrator. Instead, it is an act of self-empowerment, compassion, and liberation. By releasing the weight of grudges and resentments, we create space for healing and personal transformation. As you navigate the complex terrain of forgiveness, may you find solace, courage, and the strength to unburden your soul and embrace a future filled with love, joy, and inner peace.

Remember, forgiveness is a gift you give yourself—a choice to reclaim your happiness and rewrite the narrative of your own life. Let go, release, and discover the profound freedom that forgiveness offers.

Stay tuned for upcoming blog posts that explore further nuances of forgiveness and provide practical guidance on nurturing a forgiving heart.

Inspiration

Embracing Heartache: Navigating a World Lacking Compassion

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Within the depths of our hearts, hidden beneath layers of joy and contentment, lies an immense sadness that weighs upon us. It is as if our very essence has been tainted with a heaviness, coursing through our veins and echoing through the hollow chambers of our souls. In this moment, my friends, I stand before you, shattered and heartbroken, unable to fully express the depths of my sorrow. Yet, the source of this pain is rooted in the boundless love I hold for the one who has caused it.

The Burden of Unconditional Love:

In this fleeting existence, we often find ourselves contemplating a world that can be devoid of compassion. Navigating through the harsh realities of life can be harsher than any promise we hold dear. From the burdensome weight of societal behaviors to the erosion of values and moral decline, it is a challenging journey to engage with this world. And, it is within these perplexing moments that unconditional love becomes both a solace and a torment.

The Exquisite Pain of Unrequited Love:

The pain that grips our very soul is born from a love that knows no conditions. It is a love that defies reason, expectation, and sometimes even reciprocation. To love someone unconditionally is to expose our vulnerability, laying our heart bare before them, and entrusting them with our deepest emotions. However, when this love goes unreturned, it inflicts an exquisite pain, the depths of which only those who have experienced it can fully comprehend.

The Delicate Balance:

As we navigate this fragile existence, it is essential to find a balance between the unyielding love that resides in our hearts and the need to protect ourselves from continuous heartache. While love is an inherent part of our human experience, it is equally vital to recognize our own worth and set boundaries when necessary. It is not a betrayal of love but rather an act of self-preservation.

Finding Healing in Compassion:

While we may encounter a world lacking compassion, it is crucial that we purposefully choose to be the bearers of empathy and understanding. By extending compassion to others, we not only alleviate their suffering but also find a balm for our own wounded hearts. In seeking to understand the experiences and perspectives of others, we can heal and find solace in the power of compassion.

Conclusion:

To love unconditionally is a courageous act, one that exposes us to both profound joy and profound pain. As we navigate a world that often lacks compassion, it is imperative that we find solace in the richness of our own hearts. Let us embrace our heartache, acknowledging its presence as a testament to our capacity to love deeply. And in that vulnerability, let us also extend compassion to others. For in nurturing compassion within ourselves and radiating it into the world, we can begin to heal the wounds that bind us and forge a path towards a more empathetic and compassionate future.

Remember, even in the depths of our sorrow, we possess the strength to rise above and cultivate compassion where it is needed most.

Inspiration

Nurturing Healthy Relationships: Understanding the Roles of Men in Your Life

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

Love, a powerful force that binds us all, often leads us on a quest to find a partner who complements our values, ambitions, and dreams. However, guiding our loved ones in their journey can be challenging, especially when it comes to advising our daughters on what to look for in a partner. In this blog, we will explore the importance of understanding the roles men play in our lives, both as friends and potential life partners, aiming to provide valuable insights that will empower women to make informed choices.

The Unfailing Wisdom of Proverbs:

The wisdom shared in Proverbs reveals that there are certain behaviors that the Lord condemns, shedding light on the qualities that we should be cautious about in our relationships. By being aware of these negative traits, both men and women can navigate their connections with a discerning eye, seeking qualities that build a foundation of trust, respect, and love.

Understanding Friendship with Men:

Before delving into romantic partnerships, it is crucial to recognize the significance of cultivating healthy friendships with men. These friendships offer unique perspectives, emotional support, and companionship. By seeking friendships based on shared values and mutual respect, women can develop an understanding of the desirable qualities that should be present in any relationship.

The Roles of Men and Women in Relationships:

To develop strong and harmonious relationships, it is essential to comprehend the roles that both men and women play. Challenging traditional gender norms, modern relationships thrive when there is a balance that respects individuality, fosters communication, and promotes shared responsibilities. By embracing equality, couples can build a partnership based on trust, love, and mutual growth.

Seeking a Life Partner:

When considering a life partner, women often yearn for qualities that ensure a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Kindness, integrity, respect, and emotional support are foundational attributes to seek in a potential partner. Furthermore, alignment of life goals and aspirations, coupled with effective communication, are vital for long-term happiness and growth within a relationship.

Empowering Choices and Prioritizing Personal Values:

In the pursuit of love and companionship, it is paramount for women to prioritize their own beliefs, values, and well-being. By staying true to oneself and setting healthy boundaries, women can navigate relationships with confidence and make choices that align with their long-term happiness and personal growth.

Conclusion:

The quest for a healthy and fulfilling relationship is an inherent desire many women share. By understanding the qualities to value in both friendships and romantic partnerships, women can embark on this journey with clarity, embracing the roles that men play in their lives. Empowered with this knowledge, women can make choices that nurture their own well-being while forging connections built on love, trust, and shared values.

Ultimately, finding a partner who supports, uplifts, and cherishes you is an invaluable gift that can enhance your life in unimaginable ways. So, dear readers, embrace the wisdom shared here, trust your instincts, and remember that you deserve nothing less than a love that complements and inspires the amazing person you are.

Inspiration

Admitting Mistakes – The Unexpected Enlightenment

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

I made the worst mistakes of all time.

A year ago, I made a decision that I now realize was beneath my abilities and experience. At the time, I needed a break from working under a manipulative manager who had control over my financial future with her reckless and immature actions. Unfortunately, my new job in Louisiana has proven to be just as challenging, with a lack of competent leadership and character.

When I accepted this position, my intention was to work for a company that seemed benevolent and reputable, aligning with my personal values of serving the local community. I believed that taking this job would give me a chance to excel in ways that were previously unavailable, as the work itself seemed simpler. I saw it as an opportunity to finally find the rest I desperately needed.

However, looking back, those were my first two mistakes. It was wrong of me to assume that a break from my previous situation would automatically lead to a more fulfilling work environment. It was also a mistake to generalize that women with master’s degrees were inherently more educated and worldly. I recall being captivated by the beauty and sophistication of the women at the bank, but I have come to understand that appearances can be deceiving.

It is through these mistakes that I have learned some valuable lessons. I now realize that true fulfillment comes from aligning not only with a company’s mission, but also with its leadership and values. I have come to understand that education and experience cannot be judged solely by degrees or superficial observations.

Moving forward, I am committed to finding a work environment that respects and appreciates my skills and experiences. I am eager to explore opportunities where I can contribute to a company that values integrity, competence, and growth.

We all make mistakes, but it is how we learn from them that truly matters. I am determined to turn these lessons into a brighter future, filled with meaningful experiences and personal growth.