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Forgiving Ones Self is Harder!

When you have an extensive network, and you know a lot of people, you feel blessed when you can say you have more than five intimate friends. All my life, people have moved me from one house to another, from one city to another, and from one state to another. Networking became second nature.

Last night I learned that a man I’ve known for seven years passed away suddenly. He was a heavy drinker when I knew him, but that increased over time and the profound sadness of losing both his parents ended with the crescendo of Sorosis of the liver and failure of his kidneys. What could have been completely avoidable, ended by taking his life.

The minute I heard, thoughts of how I could’ve reached out flooded my soul. The guilt of not keeping in touch, not cultivating, not even picking up the phone to see if he was okay, because he was such a alpha male, that it never occurred to me he wouldn’t be okay?!

Which brings me to the topic of this discussion. It’s so much easier to forgive others when they offend us, then it is to forgive ourselves for our transgressions. How do you forgive yourself when you know there is something you could have done and yet did nothing? What are the steps that you take to forgive yourself?

Guilt is poison! You can’t hold onto it! It cannot be resolved! It is the toxic chemical that poisons your soul and your mind. Living with guilt is harder than living with pain or sadness because it is all consuming. Releasing that guilt is what is necessary, but when you have the understanding the fault lies with in your actions, how do you get to resolution?

Thoughts?!

Inspiration

I Hate the word, “Diet!”

Diet to me is the ugliest word that came into the English language.  I watch as women who have no concept of what they’re doing to their bodies restrict themselves as to what they believe they should and should not eat. They haven’t gone to the doctor and God help them if they did because those indexes that doctors use are unrealistic. Women have doctors, and specialists and TV and Movie Stars telling them what is and what isn’t good to eat.  It’s all crazy and the word diet implies that you should be thin. Sickly thin. Size 6 or less is the only acceptable because designers don’t even make clothes for women over that size.

Well I am here to tell you, that size 6 is not a picnic.  It’s a sick twisted conglomerate monopolizing business that’s sole goal is to keep you guessing all so they can make a buck and I hate it.  It’s the largest industry of sellable books and products in today’s economy.  If that doesn’t scare you I don’t know what will. That very subtle word, diet, is the catalyst for the pharmaceutical industry, for the retail industry, for the cosmetics and most of the necessities for women. It drives our economy so you had better buy into the word because those fat cats on Hollywood Boulevard, the media and the designers in New York are going to make absolutely certain that you will not have confidence without that word in your vocabulary!

Here’s what I suggest. You don’t have to particularly listen to me, but I do eat well. I have never had a weight problem and for the most part I have been healthy most of my life.  I have a thin shape and I don’t think I look too ancient but that is my opinion. You may have your own. So what I do is document in a program application called My Fitness Pal. You can download the app for yourself at www.myfitnesspal.com. Works on PC’s too.

In this program you put everything you eat. Don’t lie!  And if you have enough courage to fully understand the limits, expectations and goals you can print how many carbs or how many sugars you have in one day, week, month or year.  You can give that to your doc and show them that what you’re saying is the truth.  Then you and your doctor can decide if diet is right for you OR if you just need a lifestyle change.  (No jokes intended).

Be well, take care.

Misfit Out! ~~~