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Human Interest, Inspiration, Journal Entry, Opinion, Reflection

Witness to the Brooding Storm Within – But Remember Our Worth

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2022 – Rebecca Nietert

I will never comprehend the actions of someone who chooses to take offense without engaging in constructive discussion. Instead, they resort to screaming, blocking, and shutting out any opposing viewpoints. It reminds me of a child throwing a tantrum. In a healthy relationship, conflicts should be resolved with love and understanding. However, when one party refuses to reciprocate that love and understanding, the relationship becomes selfish, one-sided, and ultimately doomed. Some temper tantrums leave irreparable damage. It’s truly disheartening, but sadly, it is the reality we sometimes face.

Recently, I experienced this kind of behavior firsthand. The person in question simply stated, “I spoke my mind,” believing that was the end of it. It did not matter how their words were delivered, the emotions they stirred, or the hurtful things they said in anger. In their mind, they had the right to express their thoughts without being held accountable for their actions. They expected the recipient of their anger to passively agree with everything they believed, and any form of contradiction was unacceptable. When I attempted to explain that their personalization of issues in my life was misguided, the response was immediate – I was blocked and mocked.

It is with a heavy heart that I recount this story. It serves as a reminder of the challenges we face when trying to navigate human relationships. The inability to engage in meaningful dialogue, to empathize with others, and to understand that communication is a two-way street can have devastating consequences. It is my hope that we can all strive to approach conflicts with love and openness, ready to listen and learn from one another. In doing so, we may find the path towards healing and genuine connection.

It’s disheartening to witness how some individuals, despite their professional façade or seemingly loving demeanor, can harbor a brooding storm within. For those of us blessed with the inability to desert, it can be a heavy burden to bear.

Yet, in these moments, it’s crucial to remind ourselves of our own worth. We must remember that our friendships hold value, even when surrounded by individuals whose true nature remains hidden. It’s important to affirm ourselves and refuse to internalize the hateful words that may come our way. We must hold steadfast to our path, always striving to do what is right, regardless of how others may behave.

This is what defines a person of character, especially in times like these. And if the storm persists, if the toxicity becomes unbearable, it is okay to take action. It is okay to light the match and set the bridge ablaze, severing ties that no longer serve our emotional well-being.

Remember, dear reader, you are not alone in your experiences. The world is filled with souls struggling with similar challenges. But it is in recognizing our own worth, staying true to our values, and being unafraid to let go of those who bring us down, that we can find solace.

So, as you traverse the untamed waters of life, hold onto your character. Embrace the sadness that may come, but let it fuel your determination to remain true to yourself. And know that as you set those bridges aflame, you make space for new connections that will bring you warmth, joy, and a sense of peace.

You deserve it.

Inspiration

Why don’t more women look sexy as they age?—by Nancy LiPetri

Reba Nietert

While what’s sexy may be in the eyes of the beholder, we have to admit the 50-and-better years make it harder to feel like we’re as attractive as we ever were. Yes, I’m of that age, qualified to add my two cents worth, and I love to write about the subject.

First of all, I’m not talking about celebrity sexiness. I’m looking at sexiness in the real world: my neighbor who still hops on a motorcycle to feel the wind in her hair with her hubby who has none…the friend in yoga class whose skin glows and natural silver hair looks effortlessly chic, who astounds us at 70…the pickleball partner who rocks spandex at age 64, pumps iron and still works with the police…the artist who paints nudes and won’t hesitate to pose for same.

Do each of those, real women I know, share a common body shape, look or lifestyle? No. Some are married, one widowed, one without a current partner. While they define sexy to me, each of you might have a different type in mind. Yet high on the list of what most people say constitutes sexy is confidence. 

Age usually breeds confidence. Hey, what an advantage! My own hubby says I’m sexier now than I was at any younger age. I think I see proof otherwise in old photos, yet he insists it’s true. And I have to admit, his smile lines and savvy make him sexier than ever—but let’s leave men’s aging to another post. 

As my characters remark, we women have so much going on in our heads that can squelch or stoke sexiness. Many of us were brought up to suppress it at every age. Did your mom seem sexy? Our different cultures/upbringings surely influence what we perceive. One woman’s sexy is another’s dull…one’s daring or even promiscuous is another’s normal or playful. Some applauded this year’s Super Bowl halftime while others thought it went too far beyond what cheerleaders show us all year round. But back to non-celebrity mojo, here.

All that said, by this age we may have had children, empty nest, career, grief, illness, being a caregiver, whatever’s in your mix. It’s too easy for women to put ‘sexy’ on a back burner, thinking you’ll get back to it, then realize you’ve forgotten how to connect to it. Some crash into a midlife reawakening (I’ve heard much on that from readers of my first book). Some give up on being sexy along with giving up dating/marriage, saying it’s more trouble than it’s worth and that they’re content. 

My conclusion is sexiness fits into each journey differently. And some women are so unconventional (meet the MC in my second book) that they may not immediately strike us as sexy. But just because one of us doesn’t see the sexy in another doesn’t mean someone isn’t telling her she’s sexier than ever. In the end, who are we to judge? 

Find Nancy and her novels at:

https://www.facebook.com/nancy.lipetri

http://nancylonlakenorman.blogspot.com/

Human Interest

The Power of Words – Can Affirm or Destroy

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2020 – Rebecca Nietert

Most people who truly know me understand that I have evolved past idle gossip and unproductive banter. Transparency is something I value greatly, even if it means being more open than society deems necessary.

Throughout my personal journey of self-actualization, I have learned to embrace both the positive and negative aspects of human behavior. However, what challenges me is when individuals refuse to acknowledge their emotional reactions to situations that don’t warrant them. It’s disheartening when they cannot take responsibility for their prideful or conflict-causing behavior.

To protect my well-being, I find it necessary to distance myself from such individuals and relegate them to the realm of acquaintances. By doing so, I safeguard myself from unnecessary conflict. Life is already filled with chaos due to natural occurrences, and I have no desire to introduce any further turmoil.

I have always believed in the power of words. Just because someone utters words doesn’t automatically make them true. Similarly, the mere act of speaking words doesn’t guarantee their validity.

One’s true character lies in the kindness and intention behind their words. We all fall prey to moments of selfishness, pride, and intolerance – a flaw inherent within us.

Words hold immense power. As you navigate the challenges of life, whether it’s an infuriating near-miss in traffic, a berating boss, or a backstabbing colleague, how you respond speaks volumes about your outlook. Personally, I strive to safeguard the peace I’ve earned, becoming less tolerant of the unnecessary drama reminiscent of high school antics.

Remember, our words shape our reality. Let empathy and compassion guide your choices, ensuring that every utterance contributes to a more harmonious existence for all.

amwriting, Inspiration

The Grand Tapestry of Life: Appreciation of Children

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2019 – Rebecca Nietert

This morning, my day started off with a bang, courtesy of my two adorable children. Just as the sun began to rise, my firstborn declared, for the second time in as many weeks, “I am sick.” A quick check of her temperature confirmed her claim. As I comforted her, I heard my younger child’s voice piercing the air, “Zeus, our mischievous feline, has done it again! He’s caught another bunny!” Without hesitation, I rushed to the scene and saved the furry little creature, all the while lecturing it about the dangers of the outside world during the day. Alas, bunnies are not known for their listening skills.

But the chaos didn’t end there. My little angel, with her signature 13-year-old attitude, announced, “My phone is BROKEN AGAIN!” Incredulous, I replied, “Phones just don’t break!” She shot back, unyielding, “Well, mine did!” I let out a heavy sigh, feeling a wave of frustration wash over me. I plugged the phone into its charger, firmly instructing her to consider the device worthless and find another means of reaching out to her friends. Finally, I retreated to the sanctuary of my favorite armchair, craving the solace of that first sip of coffee.

Life’s twists and turns may test our patience, but they also present opportunities for growth and resilience. As I pondered these morning mishaps, it struck me that sometimes we need to find alternative paths to navigate the challenges thrown our way. Just like my daughter must now explore new methods of communication, we too can adapt and find creative solutions to the obstacles we face.

The phone abruptly interrupted the tranquility of my day. It was my husband, frustration palpable in his voice, tangled in yet another battle with the indulgent insurance company. He pleaded for my help in locating a crucial document. My heart tugged, for he is undoubtedly the greatest man I have ever had the privilege of knowing. And so, with a deep breath, I set forth on a mission to aid him, as always.

Yet, there are times when I feel the strain of his recurrent circumstances. When faced with challenges, whether pertaining to health, choices, or any other myriad factors, do we not hold the responsibility of forging our own path to rectify the situation? Should we not bear the burdens of our own circumstances? These weighty ponderings often lead to intricate arguments, as both partners contend with feelings of overextension, taking things for granted, or simply not paying attention. Such complexities are the essence of every relationship. Even mine, which, while wondrously close to perfection, is not exempt from such struggles.

Make no mistake, I count my blessings fervently. I steadfastly seek solace and favor in the divine grace of God, adhering to my maternal commandments as a devoted wife and mother. However, amid these roles and responsibilities, there are moments when I yearn for respite. Moments when I long to unravel the worries that ceaselessly revolve around my mind. Moments when I want to focus on myself, to indulge in the trivial luxuries of life, like having my hair elegantly styled or getting my nails meticulously manicured, without the constant interruptions that stem from my loved ones’ needs.

Still, I embrace my duties, knowing they are woven into the fabric of who I am. I navigate this delicate dance, finding the balance between selflessness and self-care. Though imperfect, my relationship thrives on the love and effort poured into its foundation. It is within this intricate web of responsibilities and desires that true growth and resilience reside.

In the grand tapestry of life, we are called to cherish and nurture our relationships, to stand by our loved ones through the tumultuous storms. And while the winds of responsibility may sometimes threaten to uproot our equilibrium, it is in these moments that we find strength, love, and the unwavering desire to make each day extraordinary.

Human Interest, Inspiration, Opinion, Reflection, Revelations, The Children

Navigating the Storm: Understanding the Mean Teenage Phase

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2018 – Rebecca Nietert

Parenting is a wondrous journey filled with love, joy, and challenges. As our children transition from childhood to adolescence, we sometimes find ourselves puzzled by their sudden transformation. In this blog, we will explore the enigmatic phase of teenage meanness and seek to understand the underlying reasons behind it. Remember, you are not alone on this rollercoaster ride of parenting, and together we can navigate the storm and guide our children towards kindness and growth.

1. The Whirlwind of Adolescence:

The onset of adolescence brings a host of physical, emotional, and hormonal changes. These developments often lead to heightened emotions and the manifestation of unpredictable behavior. While it may seem as if your once tender-hearted child has transformed into someone unrecognizable, it is essential to remember that beneath the surface lies the same loving spirit.

2. The Struggles Within:

Teenagers face a myriad of challenges during this phase. As they strive for independence, they grapple with issues of identity, self-esteem, peer pressure, and the daunting task of navigating their ever-changing world. It is crucial to acknowledge and empathize with the internal struggles that may contribute to their momentary meanness.

3. Responding with Love:

When faced with hurtful words or actions from our teenage children, it is natural to feel hurt and frustrated. However, responding with love and understanding can create a safe space for communication and growth. Instead of reacting impulsively, take a moment to reflect on their underlying needs and find ways to guide them towards healthier forms of self-expression.

4. Setting Boundaries:

While it is important to respond with love, it is equally essential to establish clear boundaries. Communicate your expectations and values, and hold your child accountable for their actions. By setting consistent boundaries, we teach them that kindness and respect are non-negotiable aspects of relationships.

5. Nurturing Emotional Connection:

Maintaining a strong emotional connection with your teenager is crucial during this phase. Ensure that they feel heard, valued, and loved even when their behavior may suggest otherwise. Open up avenues for honest conversations, actively listen to their concerns, and provide support without judgment. These actions can foster a sense of trust and keep the lines of communication open.

Conclusion:

The teenage phase, with its tumultuous mix of emotions and changes, can indeed present challenges for both parents and children. However, by understanding the underlying factors contributing to their meanness, responding with love and empathy, setting appropriate boundaries, and nurturing an emotional connection, we can guide our children towards rediscovering their inherent kindness. Remember, this phase is temporary, and with patience, understanding, and unwavering love, we can weather the storm together and witness the remarkable transformation of our children into compassionate and resilient adults.

Hold onto hope, for beneath the temporary clouds of teenage meanness, the sun of their innate kindness will always shine.

Inspiration, Reflection

Prioritizing Self-Care: Letting Go of Selfishness and Embracing Personal Well-being

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

In our fast-paced and demanding world, prioritizing self-care often feels like an act of selfishness. However, it is crucial to recognize that self-care is not only essential but also empowering. Many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to put others’ needs before our own. In this blog, we will explore the importance of overcoming these societal expectations and embracing self-care as a means of nurturing our well-being and unleashing our true potential.

1. Challenging the Notion of Selfishness:

The notion that taking time for oneself is selfish stems from outdated societal expectations and gender roles. It’s essential to break free from these limiting beliefs and redefine self-care as an act of self-love rather than selfishness. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup – by taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to support and uplift those around you.

2. Unlearning Past Conditioning:

The era we grew up in may have instilled in us the belief that women should be selfless and always prioritize others. However, it is crucial to acknowledge that times have changed, and it is time to unlearn these limiting beliefs. Reflect on the strengths and talents you possess and consider how they align with your own desires and aspirations, rather than constantly deferring to others.

3. Recognizing the Importance of Self-Care:

Self-care is not a luxury; it is a fundamental necessity for maintaining physical, emotional, and mental well-being. It is about finding the balance between responsibilities and personal needs. By prioritizing self-care, you create space for relaxation, rejuvenation, and self-reflection, fostering personal growth and resilience.

4. Overcoming Guilt and Prioritizing Yourself:

Guilt often sneaks in when we put our needs first. However, it is crucial to understand that self-care is not an indulgence but an investment in oneself. Remind yourself that you deserve to be cared for and prioritize your well-being without guilt or shame. Embrace the idea that taking care of yourself is a loving act that benefits everyone around you.

5. The Power of Boundaries and Saying No:

Establishing boundaries is vital in maintaining a healthy balance between self-care and obligations. Learning to say no when necessary allows you to protect your energy and allocate time and resources effectively. By setting clear boundaries, you communicate your needs and create a space for personal growth and self-fulfillment.

Conclusion:

It is time to redefine self-care and dismiss any notion that it is selfish. Prioritizing your well-being is an act of resilience and empowerment. By unlearning past conditioning, recognizing the importance of self-care, overcoming guilt, and setting healthy boundaries, you allow yourself to flourish and unlock your true potential. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish but a beautiful testament to your worth and the love you have for yourself and others.

Inspiration, The Children

Embracing Love: A Journey of Raising Children Through Loss

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

Parenting can often feel like an overwhelming task, especially when faced with the challenge of raising children who have experienced significant loss. As we navigate through the complexities of grief, therapy sessions have shed light on the importance of being accountable not just for our children’s well-being, but also for our own actions and examples. In this heartfelt journey, we explore the struggles of maintaining love and patience amidst sibling conflicts, and how teaching love after loss becomes our ultimate calling.

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1. A New Sense of Accountability:

Therapy sessions have presented us with a unique opportunity to reflect on our experiences, as we are asked to complete homework assignments that encourage us to acknowledge and record our glad, sad, and mad moments throughout the week. This newfound accountability not only helps guide our discussions with the children, but also emphasizes the significance of setting positive role model examples for them. We realize that just getting through the day is not enough when our goal is to bring joy to children who have only known sadness.

2. Balancing Conflict and Love:

Sibling arguments and bickering can easily consume our attention, tempting us to respond with anger and immediate consequences. However, we understand that this does not effectively address the underlying need for love and connection. Teaching love after experiencing such profound loss becomes our primary focus. We are called upon by a higher power to heal and nurture, not just correct and discipline. This journey involves actively choosing patience and understanding, even when it feels difficult.

3. The Power of Patience:

Losing our patience is a common struggle faced by parents, particularly when dealing with the complexities of grief. The weight of the emotions we carry can sometimes make us feel overwhelmed, causing us to react impulsively rather than responding with love. However, we must remember that true healing and growth arise from patient and compassionate interactions. By prioritizing our children’s emotional well-being and fostering an environment of understanding, we can shape their resilience and show them the power of patience in the face of adversity.

4. Embracing Love as Our Journey:

Raising children through loss is not an easy path, but it is one that we have been called to embark upon. Our journey involves teaching love, compassion, and resilience, even in the face of immense sadness. By exemplifying these qualities, we provide our children with the tools they need to navigate their own grief and find healing. We discover that the most important lesson we can teach them is that love is not diminished by loss, but rather amplified through it.

Conclusion:

As we navigate the challenges of raising children who have experienced significant loss, we must remember that our ultimate calling is to teach them love and compassion. Through therapy sessions and self-reflection, we embrace accountability and recognize the importance of setting positive role model examples. By balancing conflict with love, practicing patience, and recognizing our journey as a path of healing and growth, we equip our children to face adversity with resilience and discover the boundless power of love.

In this journey, may love guide our actions, heal our wounds, and bring light to the lives of our precious children.

Inspiration

Rediscovering My Urban Spirit: Embracing Authenticity in Suburbia

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

There’s something about the energy and vibrancy of the city that has always captivated me. Soaking in the arts, culture, and the fast-paced nature of urban life truly fuels my soul. However, circumstances led me to trade the bustling streets for the tranquility of suburban living. In this blog, I will delve into my journey of rediscovering my urban spirit and embracing authenticity in the sometimes stifling world of suburban life.

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1. The Allure of City Life:

From the theater district to trendy boutiques and gourmet restaurants, the city offers a myriad of experiences that ignite my passion. The intellect and creativity that thrives in cultural epicenters like these are unmatched. The hustle and bustle of everyday life bring a sense of purpose and excitement that fuels my soul.

2. The Transition to Suburbia:

Entering the realm of suburban living often requires sacrificing the high heels and stylish outfits for comfortable shoes and practical clothing. Sweaters replace flowing blouses, and the vibrant accessories get tucked away. This transition can feel like a departure from our authentic selves, leaving us longing for the connection to our true urban spirit.

3. The Burden of Social Constraints:

Within suburban communities, conformity to unwritten social norms can be strongly enforced. As a city girl at heart, not conforming to the suburban housewife mold can invite judgment and scrutiny. The pressure to fit in can be stifling, and it requires resilience to stay true to our authentic selves.

4. Unleashing Authenticity:

Rediscovering our urban spirit means unapologetically embracing our true selves in the midst of suburbia. It involves recapturing the essence of what makes us unique and finding ways to incorporate elements of the city’s energy and culture into our suburban lives. Whether it’s seeking out local art sessions, seeking diverse friendships, or creating vibrant spaces in our homes, we have the power to infuse our surroundings with our authentic selves.

5. Embracing the Unconventional:

The journey towards authenticity requires embracing the unconventional and challenging the status quo. It means embracing our personal desires and passions, even if they differ from the traditional suburban ideal. By doing so, we not only honor our true selves but also inspire others to do the same.

Conclusion:

As a city girl navigating suburban living, it can be easy to lose sight of our authentic selves. However, by embracing our urban spirit and unapologetically weaving it into our daily lives, we can find fulfillment and create a sense of purpose. Let us celebrate our uniqueness, defy social constraints, and empower ourselves to live authentically, even in the most unexpected of places.

Inspiration

The Profound Influence of Kindness: A Journey of Faith Restored

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2016 – Rebecca Nietert

Have you ever experienced a moment so powerful that it brought tears to your eyes, leaving you in awe of life’s blessings? Today, dear readers, I found myself in such a moment, overwhelmed by an immense feeling of gratefulness and humility. In this blog, I want to share with you the transformative power of kindness and the profound impact it has had on my outlook towards faith in humanity.

Finding Solace in Act of Kindness:

At times, life’s challenges can cloud our faith in the goodness of others. Disappointment, pain, and selfishness can leave us feeling jaded and questioning the basic human nature. Yet, in that moment of tears and vulnerability, I was touched by an act of kindness that rekindled my belief. The genuine love and compassion shown to me transcended words and filled my heart with warmth, reminding me that kindness is still very much alive in this world.

Reflecting on A Year of Incredible Women:

As the tears streamed down my face, I could not help but reflect on the past year and the remarkable women who have crossed my path. Their acts of kindness, both big and small, have made a profound impact on my life. Their willingness to extend a helping hand, offer words of encouragement, or simply lend an empathetic ear has been a testament to the power of human connection. These women have restored my faith in the strength and kindness that resides within us all.

Learning to Believe in the Power of Kindness:

Throughout my journey, I have faced unimaginable hardships that have tested my belief in the kindness of others. The scars left behind by past disappointments made it challenging to trust again. However, the recent outpouring of kindness has opened my eyes to the truth that there are more kind-hearted souls in this world than not. Through their actions, they serve as beacons of hope, reminding us of the transformative power of even the smallest acts of kindness.

Embracing the Challenge:

For me, learning to believe in the kindness of others has been a personal challenge. Yet, it is a challenge worth embracing. As I witness the selflessness and compassion displayed by others, I am reminded that true strength lies in our ability to open our hearts to the possibility of kindness, both in giving and receiving. It is an act of vulnerability and trust, but one that has the power to change lives.

Conclusion:

Today, as tears flowed down my cheeks, I surrendered myself to the overwhelming feeling of gratitude for the kindness that surrounds me. This heartfelt journey has reaffirmed my faith in the inherent goodness of humanity and reignited my hope for a brighter future. Let us all embrace the challenge of believing in kindness, for it is through our collective acts of compassion that we can create a world where love and understanding prevail. Remember, dear readers, the power of kindness lies within each one of us – let us use it to make a difference.

Inspiration

The Power of Surrender: Embracing Life’s Challenges with Grace

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2016 – Rebecca Nietert

Life, with all its challenges and uncertainties, often tests our ability to stay resilient and find happiness amidst adversity. As we navigate through the storms, it is natural to feel overwhelmed and uncertain about the best course of action. In this blog, we will explore the concept of surrendering to a higher power, learning to let go of control, and finding peace by aligning our actions with a greater purpose. So, dear reader, join me on this transformative journey as we discover the power of surrender and embracing life’s challenges with grace.

1. The Struggle Within:

We all experience moments of doubt when our best intentions seem to lead to unintended consequences. It is during these times that we must recognize the limits of our own understanding and embrace the humility to seek guidance from something greater than ourselves. Rather than relying solely on our own judgments, learn to listen to the subtle whispers of intuition or divine intervention that offer unexpected insights and clarity.

2. Letting Go of Control:

One of the hardest lessons to learn is that we cannot control everything in life. Trying to force our will upon a situation often leads to frustration and disappointment, both for us and those we aim to help. Instead, surrendering to the flow of life allows us to detach from the outcome and trust in the greater plan that is unfolding. Embrace the beauty of surrender and experience the freedom it brings.

3. The Wisdom of Divine Guidance:

Sometimes, the answers we seek are already within reach, but we fail to recognize them. By cultivating a deeper connection with a higher power, whether it be through prayer, meditation, or simply taking moments of silence, we open ourselves up to divine guidance. Allowing ourselves to be receptive to this wisdom can help us make choices that align with our true purpose and bring about positive change in the lives of those around us.

4. The Pause for Reflection:

In the busyness of daily life, it is crucial to take pause and reflect on our thoughts, intentions, and actions. This moment of reflection allows us to reassess our motives, ensuring they are driven by love, compassion, and a true desire to serve others. By taking this step back, we can better understand the potential harm that may result from imposing our own control and instead journey toward a place of authentic assistance and empowerment.

Conclusion:

Amidst the struggles we face, there is solace and strength in surrender. By acknowledging our limited perspective, relinquishing control, and opening ourselves up to divine guidance, we can navigate life’s challenges with grace and find peace within. Embrace the power of surrender and watch as life unfolds in unexpected and beautiful ways. May this journey inspire you to let go, trust in the greater plan, and truly make a positive impact on the lives of others. Remember, it is through surrendering that we find the freedom to soar.