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Chaos & Adversity Resides in the “Burbs”

Reba Nietert

Oh, what a glorious morning it’s been! Nothing like a dog launching itself onto your stomach to remind you you’re alive, right? Who needs an alarm clock when you’ve got a furry wrecking ball? Then, off I go to deliver blood—because what’s more exhilarating than starting your day with “that” little joy ride? Oh, and surprise! A bonus overdue bill that insurance *just didn’t feel like covering.* Ah, the thrill of adulting.

Next stop: Best Buy, where my $275-a-year warranty plan apparently only covers the privilege of being told, “Sorry, we can’t touch that because Mac is too fancy for us.” Cool, cool. No worries, I’ll call Mac support! Surely they’ll save the day. Spoiler alert: They didn’t. Their troubleshooting steps were so helpful that I still can’t remove “Find My Mac,” can’t ship it in, and oh, the nearest Mac store? Just a casual 80 miles away. Totally convenient.

Meanwhile, my inbox is blowing up with client emails. You know, because technology is supposed to make life easier—except when it doesn’t, and instead sets your soul on fire (just like my MacBook, which is now doubling as a space heater). I’ve got 10 minutes to get anything done before it overheats and turns into a toaster. And let’s not forget Scott, who’s juggling his own life while I’m over here like, “Hey, can you also help me not set my house on fire with this laptop?”

Speaking of fire hazards, I left the dogs home alone because clearly, today wasn’t chaotic enough. They’re probably redecorating the living room with teeth marks as we speak. Oh, and because I’m a genius, I decided to cook eggs on an empty stomach. Fast-forward 10 minutes, and I’m starring in my own one-person food poisoning drama. Salmonella for breakfast? Chef’s kiss.

And the best part? It’s not even 1 PM. Can’t wait to see what the rest of the day has in store. Maybe a meteor? Fingers crossed!

Wait though, another twist in the day of… Oh, the joys of modern technology, where your $3,500 “investment” from 2018 is now worth less than a decent dinner for two at a steakhouse. Let’s take a moment to appreciate your laptop’s midlife crisis: deciding to moonlight as a space heater while simultaneously developing an attitude problem with its spacebar and trackpad. It’s like it hit its rebellious teen years—five years late.

So, after nearly setting your lap on fire and enduring its refusal to play nice with your Apple ecosystem, you decide to take action. First stop: Best Buy, where your $270 warranty has aged like milk. “It’s been too long,” they say. Oh, you mean the “five years” since I bought this thing? My bad for thinking a warranty might actually, you know, “warrant”something.

Next up, the Apple Store. After an hour-long conversation with a guy who probably Googled your problem mid-call, you’re handed off to a salesperson with the charisma of a used car dealer. Their solution? Rip out your laptop’s guts, charge you $1,200, and offer no guarantees. Oh, and the cherry on top? That little smile when you mentioned erasing your data. Classic.

Back to Best Buy, where Jennifer is lovely (thank you, Jennifer), but the rest of the experience is like a corporate scavenger hunt. They can’t fix it because it’s “older”—a term that’s starting to feel personal at this point. Then, a helpful sales guy swoops in, dazzles you with AI talk, and shows you a shiny new Windows laptop. Great! Except when you look it up online, it’s $850, not the $1,100 he quoted. Oh, and your $3,500 MacBook? Worth $150 at Best Buy or a generous $200 if you’re willing to wait for Apple to mail you a check. What a deal.

So here you are, sitting with a glorified paperweight that doubles as a fire hazard, wondering if you should just sell a kidney to fund your new computer. Do you go without one? Well, considering your current laptop might spontaneously combust, it’s already halfway there. Maybe it’s time to embrace the “no-tech” lifestyle and start writing letters by candlelight. Or, you know, find a way to turn that space heater into a side hustle.

Inspiration

Blazing Inferno – An Epic Testimony

Reba Nietert

Copyright Rebecca Nietert – 2024

I was 16. My mind raced, thoughts swirling in chaotic disarray. The overwhelming heat pressed against my skin, threatening to consume me. In a desperate attempt to escape, I darted into the fiery inferno, my heart pounding in my chest. But the flames were relentless, their scorching touch leaving my face seared, my hair singed. I gasped for air, my lungs craving the cool freshness that was nowhere to be found.

Fear gripped me, tightening its hold with every passing second. Frantically, I changed direction, fleeing back into the kitchen. The room was shrouded in a dense, impenetrable cloud of black smoke. I dropped to the floor, seeking refuge from the inexplicable, suffocating darkness swirling around me.

Crawling on all fours, my hands outstretched, I groped my way towards the door. With trembling fingers, I reached for the knob, only to find it melted beyond recognition. Panic surged through me as the weight of the situation bore down, crushing my spirit. A whispered plea escaped my lips, “We’re going to die.”

Through the haze, my sister’s voice shattered the despair, urging me to keep trying, to find a way out. The acrid black soot coated my throat, a constant reminder of the imminent danger that surrounded us. Yet, in that harrowing moment, something shifted deep within my soul. Instinct took over, transforming me into a creature driven solely by the primal need for survival.

I continued to crawl, relentless in my pursuit of escape. The darkness stifled my senses, but I pressed on, feeling my way through the oppressive blackness. My desperate journey led me to a small mirrored bathroom, its reflective surfaces offering no solace, no guidance. Trapped, I groped futilely, my hands grasping at emptiness.

Amidst the disorienting despair, the sound of my sister’s voice called out to me with desperate urgency. I clung to her words, using them as a lifeline, navigating my way through the door and into the dimly lit hallway. Step by agonizing step, I persevered, finding my way through the labyrinthine layout of our home.

Finally, after what felt like an eternity, I stumbled into the living room. Relief washed over me, mingled with a lingering sense of dread. The battle was far from over, but for now, I had escaped the clutches of the inferno.

In that moment, I realized the true nature of fear. It had engulfed me, threatened to consume everything I held dear, but I had refused to surrender. As I stood amidst the remnants of destruction, I vowed to carry that unyielding resilience within me, forever unafraid, ready to face any challenge that may lie ahead.

To learn more about me and my journey… keep reading.

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The Power of Forgiveness: Healing from Missed Connection

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2018 – Rebecca Nietert

Life, with its unpredictable twists and turns, often leads us to cross paths with numerous individuals. Some become close friends, while others remain mere acquaintances. But what happens when the trajectory of these connections takes an unexpected turn, leaving us with regrets and unspoken words? Today, we reflect on the power of forgiveness and how it can help us heal from missed connections that we carry with us.

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1. The Blessing of a Network:

Having an extensive network and knowing a multitude of people is often seen as a blessing. It opens doors, creates opportunities, and fosters a sense of belonging. However, amidst the constant movement and ever-changing landscapes, maintaining deep connections can be a challenge. Life’s circumstances, such as frequent relocations, can make it challenging to cultivate and sustain intimate friendships.

2. Reflecting on Missed Connections:

Sometimes, we are confronted with the reality of missed connections when someone we knew suddenly passes away. The weight of missed opportunities to reach out and reconnect floods our souls. We are left grappling with the guilt of not being present or extending a helping hand when it was needed the most. This experience serves as a poignant reminder of the fragility of life and the importance of cherishing our relationships.

3. The Alpha Male Paradox:

In our pursuit of connection, we often overlook those who appear strong and self-reliant. The alpha males or individuals who exude confidence and independence may give off the impression that they will always be okay. This assumption can lead us to neglect reaching out to them, not realizing that even the strongest among us may require support and empathy.

4. Embracing Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not only a gift we offer others but also a powerful tool for our own healing. It is easier to forgive others when we understand that life’s challenges can hinder communication and connections. By extending forgiveness to ourselves for missed opportunities, we can release the burden of guilt and embrace the lessons learned.

5. A Path to Healing:

Forgiveness provides a path to healing and closure. Through forgiveness, we acknowledge our humanity and recognize that we cannot control every aspect of our lives. We learn to let go of regret, honoring the memories we shared while accepting that some connections were meant to be fleeting. By forgiving ourselves and others, we create space for growth and compassion.

6. Embracing the Present:

The experience of missed connections serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of being present in our relationships. It allows us to reevaluate our priorities and invest our time and energy in cultivating meaningful connections with those around us. By embracing the present moment, we can foster deeper connections and mitigate the regret of missed opportunities.

Conclusion:

Forgiveness holds the key to healing from missed connections that weigh heavily on our hearts. As we navigate through life’s network of relationships, let us remember to extend forgiveness not only to others but also to ourselves. Embrace the present, prioritize meaningful connections, and cherish the opportunity to create lasting bonds. For in forgiveness lies the power to find solace, acceptance, and ultimately, the freedom to forge deeper connections filled with love and understanding.

Inspiration, Reflection

Prioritizing Self-Care: Letting Go of Selfishness and Embracing Personal Well-being

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

In our fast-paced and demanding world, prioritizing self-care often feels like an act of selfishness. However, it is crucial to recognize that self-care is not only essential but also empowering. Many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to put others’ needs before our own. In this blog, we will explore the importance of overcoming these societal expectations and embracing self-care as a means of nurturing our well-being and unleashing our true potential.

1. Challenging the Notion of Selfishness:

The notion that taking time for oneself is selfish stems from outdated societal expectations and gender roles. It’s essential to break free from these limiting beliefs and redefine self-care as an act of self-love rather than selfishness. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup – by taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to support and uplift those around you.

2. Unlearning Past Conditioning:

The era we grew up in may have instilled in us the belief that women should be selfless and always prioritize others. However, it is crucial to acknowledge that times have changed, and it is time to unlearn these limiting beliefs. Reflect on the strengths and talents you possess and consider how they align with your own desires and aspirations, rather than constantly deferring to others.

3. Recognizing the Importance of Self-Care:

Self-care is not a luxury; it is a fundamental necessity for maintaining physical, emotional, and mental well-being. It is about finding the balance between responsibilities and personal needs. By prioritizing self-care, you create space for relaxation, rejuvenation, and self-reflection, fostering personal growth and resilience.

4. Overcoming Guilt and Prioritizing Yourself:

Guilt often sneaks in when we put our needs first. However, it is crucial to understand that self-care is not an indulgence but an investment in oneself. Remind yourself that you deserve to be cared for and prioritize your well-being without guilt or shame. Embrace the idea that taking care of yourself is a loving act that benefits everyone around you.

5. The Power of Boundaries and Saying No:

Establishing boundaries is vital in maintaining a healthy balance between self-care and obligations. Learning to say no when necessary allows you to protect your energy and allocate time and resources effectively. By setting clear boundaries, you communicate your needs and create a space for personal growth and self-fulfillment.

Conclusion:

It is time to redefine self-care and dismiss any notion that it is selfish. Prioritizing your well-being is an act of resilience and empowerment. By unlearning past conditioning, recognizing the importance of self-care, overcoming guilt, and setting healthy boundaries, you allow yourself to flourish and unlock your true potential. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish but a beautiful testament to your worth and the love you have for yourself and others.

The Children

Embracing the Broken: A Journey of Love and Healing

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2017 – Rebecca Nietert

Three years ago, when I was asked if I would love them like they’re my own, I had no idea of the magnitude of that commitment. I simply wanted to be part of the village that could help raise these kids. Little did I know that they had come to me carrying the weight of brokenness, longing for the love and stability they had been deprived of. In this heartfelt blog, I will recount the challenges and rewards of taking on the responsibility of nurturing children who had known little but instability and uncertainty.

A Broken Foundation:

The absence of constant parental attention had left deep wounds on these children’s hearts. They struggled academically, their behavior exhibited signs of their pain, and they found solace in sucking the life out of every fleeting moment, believing that all people who enter our lives eventually leave. It was clear that they craved something more, something stable and lasting.

The Power of Unconditional Love:

Amidst their brokenness, it became evident that their parents had loved them dearly. It was this foundation of love that provided a glimpse of the good within them, buried beneath layers of insecurity and doubt. With unconditional love as the guiding principle, I embarked on a journey to create a nurturing environment where they could heal and grow into their true potential.

Embracing the Role of Authority:

For these children to find stability, a balance needed to be found between love and discipline. As the authority figure in their lives, it was my responsibility to set boundaries, establish routines, and teach them important life skills. This delicate balance allowed them to feel secure while also instilling a sense of accountability and self-respect.

A Village Built on Support:

Recognizing the enormity of the task at hand, it became clear that it takes more than one person to mend the broken pieces. Creating a village of support became imperative. Seeking guidance from therapists, educators, and other caregivers enriched their experience, allowing them to blossom under a community committed to their well-being.

Finding Healing and Growth:

Over time, as these children felt the unwavering commitment of love surrounding them, they began to heal. Their academic performance improved, their behavior stabilized, and a newfound sense of belonging emerged. It was within this safe space that they started to believe in the possibility of lasting relationships and a future filled with unconditional love.

Conclusion:

Taking on the responsibility of nurturing broken children is not for the faint of heart. It requires immense love, dedication, and a deep understanding of the lasting impact that stability and unwavering support can have on their lives. By creating an environment rooted in love and embracing the role of authority, we can offer broken children a chance to heal, grow, and rewrite their narratives.

We must remember that the strength of the village lies in its ability to provide a safe and nurturing space, a place where brokenness can be mended and hearts can find solace. May we all be inspired to open our arms wide and embrace those in need, helping them rediscover the beauty and resilience within themselves.

Inspiration

Harnessing Retrospection: Unveiling the Power of Reflection

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2015 – Rebecca Nietert

As we reach a certain age, reflecting on our lives and the milestones we’ve achieved becomes a remarkable pleasure. Memories, both fulfilled and unfulfilled, parade through our minds, seeking space in the narratives we construct. The key to unlocking these memories lies in engaging with those who knew us during pivotal moments. It’s like walking through a video of a past we’ve long forgotten, accompanied by the rhythm of music. With the freedom to turn this retrospective lens on and off, we can use it as a powerful tool to shape our present and future.

1. The Nostalgic Journey: Uncovering the Truths of the Past:

Listening to stories and anecdotes from friends, colleagues, and family members who were there during significant moments can rekindle memories and unveil hidden truths about our past. By immersing ourselves in these conversations, we embark on a nostalgic journey that offers both validation and new perspectives, allowing us to better understand ourselves as we truly were.

2. The Power of Embracing Vulnerability:

Feeling self-conscious about our memories is natural, as it exposes our vulnerabilities and imperfections. However, recognizing that the past is behind us empowers us to embrace these memories without judgment. By summoning the courage to confront our past and accept it as a part of who we are, we pave the way for growth, self-acceptance, and personal transformation.

3. Dancing Through Time: The Addictive Nature of Retrospection:

For some of us, the act of revisiting the past is akin to dancing through time. It becomes an addictive pursuit, propelling us to shape our behaviors and actions in alignment with the person we strive to become. Embracing the influence of retrospection allows us to tap into the wisdom gleaned from our experiences, ensuring that our present choices are enriched by the lessons of the past.

4. Creating an Inspired Legacy:

One of the driving forces behind many individuals’ retrospection is the desire to leave a meaningful legacy. Whether it’s aspiring to be remembered as kind-hearted or seeking entry into a higher realm, reflecting on our lives helps guide our actions and impact others positively. The blog explores the concept of creating a lasting impact and encourages readers to identify the core values that they want their legacy to embody.

Conclusion:

Retrospection, when approached with curiosity and self-compassion, unveils the power of our past experiences. By engaging with those who witnessed our journey, embracing vulnerability, and leveraging the wisdom gained, we pave the way for personal growth, self-acceptance, and inspired actions in the present. Reflecting on our lives becomes an exhilarating dance through time, guiding us towards creating a legacy that aligns with our values. Embrace retrospection as a transformative tool, shaping your path towards becoming the person you aspire to be and leaving a positive impact on the world.

Inspiration

Cultivating Empathy: Walking a Mile in Someone Else’s Shoes

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2014 – Rebecca Nietert

In our lives, we may sometimes forget to acknowledge the pain others go through when our own experiences have not been as intense. It is important, however, to recognize that pain exists and affects each individual differently. As someone who has faced immense burdens throughout life, I may have at times appeared dismissive or insensitive. But it is not because I haven’t experienced hardship; rather, it is because I am not currently walking in your shoes. In this blog, let us explore the significance of empathy, the importance of sharing burdens, and the power of understanding one another’s pain.

Acknowledging the Spectrum of Pain:

Pain is a deeply personal and subjective experience. While some individuals may perceive certain obstacles as mere hindrances, others may experience them as overwhelming burdens. We must understand that the measure of pain varies from person to person, and it is not our place to minimize someone else’s suffering. By acknowledging this spectrum of pain, we open ourselves to a path of empathy and connection.

Avoiding the Crustacean Retreat:

It is natural to be hesitant to delve into the pain of others, as it can remind us of our own struggles. However, it is important to recognize that empathy is a powerful force that can unite and uplift us. Rather than retreating like a crab, seeking our own comfort, we should make an effort to extend our hand of support to those hurting around us. By doing so, we foster a community built on compassion and understanding.

Embracing Empathy:

In the pursuit of true empathy, we must step out of our own experiences and actively listen to others. The loss of a loved one, unemployment, or any other life event may appear as obstacles that are easily overcome to some, but to others, they may be their biggest burdens. By fostering a mindset of empathy, we create space for individuals to share their stories, truly understand their pain, and offer solace and support.

A Call for Shared Burdens:

Sharing our own burdens is essential, but it is equally important to uplift others by shouldering a portion of their burden. By reaching out to those in need, we bridge the gap between our experiences, fostering a sense of unity and healing. We can lift each other up through acts of kindness, compassion, and understanding.

The Power of Empathetic Action:

Empathy becomes meaningful when it translates into action. Small gestures of support and empathy can make a profound impact on others’ lives. Together, we can create a supportive environment where everyone feels seen, heard, and understood. By proactively taking steps to walk in someone else’s shoes, we foster a culture of empathy that benefits both individuals and society as a whole.

Conclusion:

Empathy is not about pretending to fully comprehend another person’s pain. It is about recognizing the spectrum of pain, extending support, and trying to understand one another. Let us strive to cultivate empathy by embracing the burden of others and by actively listening and offering compassion. Together, we can create a world where empathy is valued, understood, and practiced.

Inspiration

Navigating the Fragile Art of Dialogue: Understanding Perspectives with Empathy

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In a world dominated by social media interactions, the power and potential pitfalls of conversation have never been more apparent. Recently, I found myself embroiled in a heated exchange on Facebook, where differing opinions clashed and understanding seemed distant. This blog reflects on the importance of empathy in dialogue, the delicate nature of perception, and the consequences that can arise when bridges of understanding remain unconstructed.

The Limits of Words:

In our increasingly virtual world, the nuances of body language, tone, and context can be lost, leaving only the bare bones of words on a screen. What may have been intended as a thoughtful comment can be misconstrued and amplified by personal filters, leading to unintended misunderstandings. It is crucial to approach these interactions with an open mind, recognizing that the full complexity of human communication cannot always be captured in a digital medium.

The Battle of Perceptions:

Perception, shaped by personal experiences and biases, plays a significant role in how we interpret and respond to the words of others. Even with the best intentions, there can be a gap between how our words were intended and how they are received. It is essential to be mindful of this gap and willing to engage in meaningful dialogue to bridge it. Without dialogue and a genuine effort to understand one another, relationships risk being severed, potentially losing meaningful connections forever.

The Power of Empathy:

Empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, serves as a vital tool in defusing tense situations. Instead of dismissing the concerns and reactions of the offended, we should strive to listen actively, seeking to understand their perspective and emotions. Empathy allows us to step outside of ourselves and consider the impact our words may have had, even unintentionally. By acknowledging and validating each other’s experiences, we can build bridges of understanding and foster a more compassionate and inclusive society.

Balancing Convictions and Kindness:

Engaging in discussions about complex topics requires a delicate balance between expressing our convictions and showing kindness. While we have the right to form our own conclusions, it is crucial to approach these convictions with humility and a genuine concern for others. Carefully choosing our words and tone can demonstrate that our intent is rooted in empathy rather than judgment. By embracing this approach, we can create an environment that encourages respectful dialogue, even when disagreements arise.

Preserving Kinship Through Dialogue:

The potential loss of a meaningful connection due to misunderstandings is something that should deeply sadden us. It is in these challenging moments that we must lean into the discomfort and actively engage in dialogue, seeking common ground and fostering understanding. Genuine relationships are built on mutual respect, acceptance, and an appreciation for diverse perspectives. By embracing the difficult conversations, we can preserve and even strengthen the kinship that is so vital to our collective well-being.

Conclusion:

The experience of being berated for our opinions on social media highlights the importance of empathy, understanding, and fostering meaningful dialogue. In a world where online interactions can easily lead to misunderstandings and ruptured relationships, it is crucial to approach conversations with an open heart and a willingness to actively listen. By embracing empathy and actively seeking understanding, we can bridge the gaps created by perception, heal fractured connections, and create a more compassionate and connected society.

Inspiration

Transformative Power of Falling on One’s Sword: A Personal Reflection

Reba Nietert

Copyright 2012 – Rebecca Nietert

In a serendipitous moment, while perusing the vast realms of the internet, I stumbled upon a horoscope that spoke directly to the core of my being. Though skepticism may abound, the message resonated, urging me to contemplate the role of money in my life and the true essence of happiness. As I embarked on a conscious journey of self-reflection, my perspective began to shift, guided by the gentle touch of a dear friend named Mary. In this heartfelt exploration, join me as I navigate the transformative power of love and the humbling lessons it imparts.

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1. A Moment of Awakening:

The astrological nudging prompted me to evaluate the significance I had unwittingly bestowed upon material possessions and financial abundance. Gradually, I became aware of a yearning for something greater, a desire to escape the hollow allure of shiny new things and embrace a life enriched by deeper connections and humbler pleasures. The first step towards change is acknowledgment, and I heeded the call for a shift in perspective.

2. The Gentle Hand of Love:

Enter Mary, the embodiment of grace and love, whose unwavering support and honesty revealed the shortcomings in my actions. Her words, though initially challenging to hear, made me recognize that my intentions needed refinement. Emboldened by her gentle guidance, I began a transformative journey towards a more heartfelt existence where love serves as the compass directing my actions.

3. Embracing Humility and Gratitude:

In this process of introspection, I discovered the intrinsic value of humility. It is through humility that I recognized the limitations of my ego-driven pursuits and the importance of aligning my actions with love and compassion. Through Mary’s example, I learned to tap into the boundless reservoirs of love within me, shifting my focus from selfish desires to the well-being and happiness of others.

4. The Ripple Effect on Relationships:

Change, by its nature, can ruffle feathers and cause temporary disturbances in our social lives. As I embarked on this transformative path, those around me may have been initially perplexed by the newfound shifts in my attitudes and priorities. However, I trust that, in due time, they will adjust and appreciate the authenticity and love that underlie my transformed self.

Conclusion:

Life has an extraordinary way of presenting us with synchronicities and awakenings when we least expect them. The cosmic message that caught my attention served as a catalyst, propelling me toward a profound journey of self-discovery. Through the love and wisdom of Mary, I have learned to reassess my priorities, replacing the allure of materialism with the richness of genuine connections and simpler joys. Love, in its infinite forms, has the power to humble us, guide our actions, and enrich our relationships.

As you traverse the intricate tapestry of life, let us embrace the transformative power of love together. May we cultivate humility, gratitude, and genuine connections, allowing love to illuminate our paths and guide us towards a more meaningful existence. By infusing our actions with love, we not only shape our own lives but also inspire those around us to embark on their own journeys of transformation. So, let love be our compass, nurturing our souls and harmonizing our relationships on this remarkable journey we call life.